same Old Threat

When my friend was talking to RC’s ex the other day she told her he didn’t sign his rights up. She just has full custody right now. He can come back and go to court to get to see them and things again. He told her she could have them he wouldn’t fight her for them if she didn’t ask for support. Same as he tried to tell me. I know her mom and dad don’t want him around she is living with them and they are supporting them all. So I know they won’t have her go for support from him. They will want to keep him out of the picture. If anything ever happened and she was on her own I’m sure she would go after him for support. 

I have all the stuff to do it and all ready ove a year ago told them to go get him and make him pay. They just haven’t done it. So now I am going to go do it myself. He can fight me all he wants for her, it won’t happen. He will get to see her but he won’t get her over me. I’ve been there from day one I’ve bought her everything she has and has needed. He hasn’t as much as held her or even have a picture of her probably. I still have all my kids and all ways have had. We all know his track record. Lawyer done said no way. I don’t care if he wants to see her he should be in her life and spend time with her as he should the other 4 as well. 

She also told her that both boys were his and that he took off with the little one for 4 months and she couldn’t get him back. He swears they did a test and the oldest one was not his. They never did one through the court and everyone even her friends say they dont believe it is his. I don’t know I wondered before he ever told me he wasn’t his if be really was or not. It don’t really matter because he is on everything and had been there from day one until everything happen so he will still have to pay and help take care of him. As he should have to. The way he has done. He didn’t take off with him like she says either. She knew where he was he just wouldn’t let her see him and she could have gotten him if she really wanted too. There are to many laws and ways. I think she just wanted to keep the older one and let him keep the little one because he was the one her and her mom always had the least to do with and done the least for. They complained when they had to. I’m not saying anything it’s between them and all I really care about at this point is my baby getting to know her siblings. I will keep the peace and let it ride because there isnt any of it that matters anymore.

Sibling Relationships

My itty bitty has such a great relationship with her two brothers and sister. They love her to death and you can tell she loves them just as much. I’m so happy they have such a bond right now and hope they stay close as they get older and take their own paths in life.

But as you all who have been following for a while know, my itty bitty has three other brothers and a sister. I have talked about a lot how it bothers me that she may never know them or get to have a relationship with them because of the way things are.

Well last thursday my friend ran into RC’s ex wife at the store. They had only met once the night the cops were called and I was moving my stuff out.

She stopped her and told her who she was and asked her if she had the boys and how they were. Of course she has them said they were getting big and doing great. I’m happy to hear that but know they are having a hard time with all that has happen as well. They talked about how he had done everyone and his problem. She seen that my friend wasn’t happy with him and no longer talks to him. She was nice to her. She said that her boys talk about the kids all the time and want to see her daughter. That was his “gf”. She had told them they wouldn’t see them anymore because of the way things were and all. But my friend said that she told her they needed to get the kids together at the park and let them see each other and play.

Some how me and the baby came up and they were talking. She told her that I had no clue where he is and that he had only seen the baby once and don’t help with her or nothing. How I made him a album with all her photos in it and his old woman wanted to have me arrested. She also told her how I was really upset and mad about how it all happen and the fact that itty bitty had brothers and sister she may never get to have a relationship with. That I was hurt over not seeing the boys and how they were doing. Said his ex said she didn’t have a problem with me and that she didn’t have anything against me was talking about him and how he did and what he done with all the kids.

I am praying that she will let them see each other and spend time together even if its just at the park for now. I don’t expect to be buddy buddy best friends or her to let them come to my house or have us at hers. I would like for them to be able to come to the kids birthday parties or what at some point. But right now anything is better than nothing. If that’s all they ever get to do until they are older at least they will know each other and about each other and can have whatever kind of relationship they want from there.

I have thought about trying to contact her over the last two years but never have. I thought about trying now but figured it might be best to wait. Just see if she really gets with my friend and her kids and meets up or if she was just talking. My friend had sent her a friend request not long before she ran into her and she didn’t take it. She told her she didn’t because she didn’t know if she was still talking to him or what. I figure if she does meet them see how things go and I’m sure when the boys see her and her kids they will start asking about mine and things see where it goes.

If she don’t talk to her or meet up with her then maybe I will give it sometime and try to get in contact with her and just see if we can get the boys and itty bitty together at least. My other kids would love to see them and things to but if she isn’t ok with that I understand. Take what we can get and go from there.

She said when she told her it was a girl she she said aw she had never seen a little girl from his side before. She has a baby that’s about 6 months old. She said it’s dad wasn’t around either. Said she picks all the winners. Crossing my fingers and praying she will get a hold of one of us.

A Girl and Her Best Friend

Loves her dog.

1 Year And 16 Days Ago

I gave birth to my second baby girl. My itty bitty. She was the smallest of my babies and at just over a year she is still my itty bitty at just 16 lbs.

She started walking just a few days after her birthday. She had been crousing the couch tables and other things for months. Had started taking up to 5 steps on her own but wasn’t ready to fully take off on her own just yet. Then over night it seemed she was running every where. Every time I would walk through the house and seen her she was walking around. I love it, I hate the crawling stage. Now I have to get her use to shoes. I don’t like shoes and never put shoes on my babies til they started walking. She isn’t takeing to them as good as my other three.

It has been a hard but rewarding year. I think the hardest thing I have done so far in life is being the only one 100% responsable for a new baby. Her dad has still only seen or asked about her the one time when she was 4 1/2 weeks old. He is the one missing out now.

We have had a lot going on the last month and I feel horrible I haven’t gotten to do her a party yet. I was going to do one next weekend but I just don’t think im going to be able to do it. I decided to have everyone over for easter and just do a cake for her then. I am having a hard time with it because I had a party all planed for her. I have planed her party far longer than I probably should have been. But she is my last baby and I’m not going to have the chance to do all the first again after her. I know she don’t know the difference and don’t care either way. Its my self I am dealing with. I know that probably sounds crazy but I love doing all the stuff for my kids and knowing this is it. And the fact her dad isn’t in the picture and I’m still getting no help I don’t want her to miss out because of it. I feel she gets shorted because of things that have nothing to do with her and it isn’t right.

She is so smart, funny and loving, but boy does she have a temper too. She blows kisses and leans over for you to hug her. The kids will be sitting in the floor she crawls up them and hug them. Now that we have our dog back she just loves on her all day. He will lay down with her head on her or put her head on hers. The dog acts like she dont like it but you can tell she loves every min of it. She even gets in the dog cage when noone is looking and sits with the dog.

She has a bruse in the middle of her forhead right now thats been there a week or more. When she gets mad she head butts the floor or wall. She sits in the floor throws herself flat on her belly and screams. When she see we arent looking at her then she gets up and goes on. She is a handfull.