{November 30, 2012}   Going To Be MIA

I am going to be gone for a few days. We have to move all of our stuff out by Sunday and still don’t know where we are going. My worse case if I find nothing else is no longer an option. The trailer we found has more problems than we thought when we went back and looked at it. We filled out the app but really don’t think it is a option anymore. I just feel it isn’t going to be a safe place for the kids. Should have things figured out by monday. If not I can always update Monday why I am waiting on my boy to get off the bus and things.

{November 29, 2012}   Seen The Doctor Today

I finally got to see a doctor today. She wasn’t for the baby but she checked a little anyway and said that I was measuring  right on track. They did the u/s and everything Sunday and said in general everything looked good.

She looked at everything they did in the ER Sunday and said it all looked great. I told her about my heart that they wanted me to get my kindey’s tested and things like that but I never got too. She said all that looked really really good. She didn’t see anything to be worried about. She said that what happen Sunday could be from stress that it isn’t common but could happen. That there is nothing major wrong with anything they were not to worried about it. I told her about the anxaity and the depression. We talked about treating it or not. She said she knew how she felt and what she thought but asked what I thought about it. I told her I really felt like this was bad and that I really needed to be treated but that I was also worried about the baby and the effects it could/would have. She said she worked in OB for 7 years and dealt with this kind of things a lot when she did. She said didn’t feel there was really a worry there. We decided to go ahead and try something. I pick it up today and start it. I really like this doctor she is really nice and spent a lot of time talking to me. She didn’t just rush in and rush out.

I got to go my boy has gotten off the bus. The internet is down at home so I probably won’t be posting again until around this time tomorrow when I can use the net at Mc Donald’s why I wait for him.

{November 29, 2012}   Why Did Mommy Run Daddy Off

The other day when I was writing my post What Men & Women are Looking For & What They Should Be Looking For I talked about how my mom and step dad ended up getting a divorce. I also talked about how I then didn’t understand why they got divorced because he seemed so good to us and her. I wondered why my mom always fought with him and ran him off. Then this thought hit me.

I wonder what my kids think about me and my ex. The fights we had the fact we split up and are getting a divorce. I wonder if like me they think it is all my fault and that I ran him off. I wonder what he was doing that made me not want to be with him anymore.

I tried to keep the fighting a way from them but things happen and things get said. You can’t always keep it from them.But they never really knew what the fights were about. I am sure from a kids point it didn’t make sense. Of course the fact that ex always said stuff to them and in front of them about me and what happen and me being with someone else to make me and him the bad guy hasn’t help whatever they were thinking. I don’t want my kids growing up thinking that I ran their daddy off and made him leave. But they are so little how do you explain things to them? They are already going through so much they shouldn’t have to be and they are already learning about things way beyond their years.

How do you explain that mommy and daddy are no longer going to live together and why without making it seem like someones fault. If it seems like it is one or the others fault already to them how do you make them understand it isn’t one or the others fault. Despite all that has happen I do not want them to think badly of him or me. That is their dad and I’m not going to talk badly about him or say things about him to make him look bad just to make myself look good or to try to make it not look like my fault. If that makes sense.

I do tell them the truth about things. Like when they didn’t go over the summer to spend half the summer with him. I told them that he couldn’t work things out to keep them like he needed to and that is why he didn’t have them. I also told them we didn’t get to move because since their dad didn’t take them for half the summer and I had all of them I wasn’t able to work and save money like I had planed so that we could move when we planed on moving. I was going to put money a way for daycare and to move on. That way when they came back I could afford to pay it, rent and have money to move on. If he don’t do what he says he is going to do I tell them why. I am not going to lie for him when he is dropping the ball and making them feel like they did something wrong is why he isn’t doing what he said. If I tell them I am going to do something and something happens I tell them the truth. I also tell them upfront, as soon as I know we are not going to be able to do it and I tell them myself. I don’t wait until last-minute to tell them and then just tell them we aren’t doing it end of it and wait for their dad or someone to tell them. I tell them myself. A lot of times I will find something else we can do instead if I can. Or I set it up for another time when we can go and do it. He avoids it or gets mad and tells them it’s just how it is get use to it and get over it or blame it on someone/something else.

But I know I always felt like my mom ran my step dad off. I could never really see why she didn’t want to be with him. I was really young when my mom and dad split up so I don’t remember too much about that. I do remember fights bad fights and the house being broken up and things when they were together. But I use to think she ran my step dad off he didn’t do anything wonder why she fought with my dad so much and made him leave. If she would do it to one she must have done something to make the other so mad and fight like that right.

Wow too much to think about. Makes me feel so bad now thinking that my kids think I ran their dad off for no real reason and that this is all my fault like everyone else around thinks and says. As if I needed more to feel bad about and think about.


{November 29, 2012}   Adam & Eve

You know what’s funny? Paintings of Adam & Eve where they both have belly buttons. Think about that, take as much time as you need.

{November 28, 2012}   One Last Breath

If only I was 6 feet from the edge

Warning for guys upfront this is one you may not want to read. I am sure it is probably way off topic of things you want to think or read about.

Ok ladies I really hope you don’t mind answering this question for me. As I am really trying to decide what I should do and learn the pros and cons of all my options out there. I know you can research them online and ask your doctor. But that only tells you so much. I would like to hear from real people who have are using them.

If you are comfortable with leaving your answers in the comment area that is great this way others will have answers too. If not that is fine also if you would like to give your comments but not for everyone to see I understand 100%. You can email me your answer to the asingleparentslife email. Also all comments have to be approved before they are posted for others to see so if you trust that you can just state that you would rather your comment not be approved for all to see. I respect your wishes either way.

Ok here is my questions for you all…………………………………..

1. Are you or have you take any of the falling 3 pills?

A.  Seasonale     B.  Seasonique     C.   Lybrel

2.Why did you like/dislike them?

3. What other forms of birth control have you used besides this?

4. How did you like them compared to other forms you have used?

5. What side effects did you have from them?

6. How long did the side effects last?

I was on the pill when I got pregnant with my first almost 9 years ago. I took it every day same time all the time like they say and still got pregnant. It made me moody and sick some for about the first month. After that I don’t think it was to bad maybe once in a while. Not wanting to chance it with the pill again after I had my daughter I tried the patch that they just came out with. I really didn’t like it. I liked the idea and not having to take a pill every day it was great. But I felt sick all the time I was moody and sick all the time. Plus it never wanted to stay on for the full 5 to 7 days or what ever. The sticky stuff wasn’t that great. They say you can swim or take a bath with it and you really couldn’t. I really didn’t have to worry about getting pregnant because I could careless if we had sex or not. The moodiness could have been partly from hormones and things from just having a baby and all that goes along with it. But I know the not wanting to have sex wasn’t because I was back to wanting and having sex 3 weeks after I had her. Hell I was wanting it before that but that was the soonest I could lol. I will not take the shots at all. I have read to many bad things about them and know to many people who got them and had problems. They I know are not an option for me. I tried the ring for a short time also but it made me feel like the patch did. I finally just gave up and went back to condoms who never failed me unless I didn’t use them. Well until this baby and I really believe that I got pregnant this time from one of the times we didn’t use anything or that he did something to the condoms before he put them on. Just by the way he acted and things plus I have never had as many problems with condoms as I had when I was with him. In 9 years of using them.

I know pretty much for sure this is my last baby. I am thinking I want to maybe go back to something more than condoms. Just so I don’t have to worry about it all the time. I have a little while to think about it but figure I would start doing research now and getting opinions. I like these too because you don’t have your monthly friend every month. That would be nice.

Again thank you in advance for reading this and taking the time to answer. It is greatly appreciated as I don’t really know anyone who is on any forms of birth control. That might be why everyone I know has 3 to 6 kids lol.

{November 28, 2012}   Afraid to Cough

The owner of this drug store walks in to find a guy leaning
heavily against a wall. The owner asked the clerk: “What’s with
the guy over there by the wall?”

The clerk responds: “Well, he came in here this morning to get

something for his cough. I couldn’t find the cough syrup, so I
gave him an entire bottle of laxative.”The owner, wide-eyed and excited, shouts; “You idiot! you
can’t treat a cough with a bottle of laxatives!”

The clerk calmly responds: “Of course you can. Look at him.
He’s afraid to cough”

{November 27, 2012}   Elf on the Self

I have been looking at this and thinking about getting the kids one. I think it would be a neat tradition to ad to our Christmas. I also think it would be something fun and nice I could do with the kids this year with all that has went on. Something to give them a little fun cheer with moving and everything.

Dose your family have one? Did your kids take to it, do they like it and have fun with it? What do you think of it after you got it and started the tradition? How did you decide to adopt a girl or boy if you have boys and girls in your home? I can’t decide if I am able to get one for them what one I should get since I will have two girls and two boys.

Her is the description of the Elf on the shelf for those who had not heard of him. I just heard of him the very end of Christmas last year.

Information from the web site.

The Elf on the Shelf: A Christmas Tradition is an activity the entire family will enjoy. Based on the tradition Carol Aebersold began with her family in the 1970s, this cleverly rhymed children’s book explains that Santa knows who is naughty and/or nice because he sends a scout elf to every home. During the holiday season, the elf watches children by day and reports to Santa each night. When children awake, the elf has returned from the North Pole and can be found hiding in a different location. This activity allows The Elf on the Shelf to become a delightful hide-and-seek game.

Each Tradition-in-a-Box comes with its very own scout elf, a hardbound children’s book and a keepsake box for easy storage.

This Elf on the Shelf has a light skin tone.


1. Apparently, Elves are very good at self portraits. Many families have found their digital cameras full of pictures of their Elves in all kinds of crazy poses.

2. If an Elf cannot be found in the morning, the car is the first place to look. Elves are often found in the driver’s seat, sitting on a stack of pillows or books. The car may be parked backwards or in a crazy position, and in some cases even down the street or in a neighbor’s driveway.

3. Elves and children often learn more about each other and build bonds by writing letters back and forth. Some Elves arrive with a festively decorated journal to keep all the correspondence in one place. It has been rumored that some Elves only write backwards, so children must hold the note up to the mirror to read it. A few are conversant in Pig Latin or other codes that older kids must decipher.

4. Bathroom humor spans all languages and species. Elves love to turn the toilet water green (with food coloring), decorate Christmas trees in underwear, toilet paper kids rooms or whole houses, and write on bathroom mirrors with mom’s lipstick.

5. Each Elf has a name. Some are named by the children they watch. Others arrive with a note introducing the Elf. Either way, all Elves seem to love to leave their signature as often as possible. Maybe the Elf’s name is written in Cheerios, flour, or chocolate syrup on the counter. Other times in toothpaste on the bathroom mirror. Best of all, in food coloring on freshly fallen snow.

6. Everyone likes a good Christmas movie, and Elves are no exception. They have been founding relaxing on the sofa with the remote and popcorn all over.

7. Cotton ball snowball fights are a favorite past time of elves. Also, Elves often make elf sized snow angels. If real snow is not available, then Insta-Snow or flour make good substitutes.

8. Many elves have been caught having tea parties or playing games of Uno with favorite dolls and stuffed animals. Often these games take place on bookcases or under beds.

9. Some Elves have been known to make a fishing rod out of a straw, a rubber band, and a paper clip. They might be found sitting on an upside down bowl, fishing for your pet goldfish!

10. Even Elves need a slow night sometimes… Elves have been found coloring in activity books, leaving room for children to complete the picture of course.

11. Watch out for your toy cars! Elves sometimes build race tracks out of canned foods and race cars around the tree.

12. Elves like to play in hung stockings… often found upside down with their feet sticking out! Some have even been seen hanging in a chimney.

13. Sometimes helps are not as helpful as they appear… when trying to wrap gifts they can get tangled in ribbon or covered in tape.

14. Elves sometimes leave hints about what to do, often by printing out directions for community Christmas activities.

15. If you find your Elf with the controllers to your games station, don’t be surprised – they like to play video games too!

16. With all the great books available is it any surprise that the Elf may be found reading a new Christmas book?

17. Sometimes Elves have too much time on their hands…one industrious Elf used some yarn, a paper clip, and a basket to build a zip-line that ran all the way from one room to another.

18. Some families have woken up to find their Elf has taken coat hangers, hooked them to the ceiling fan, and climbed half-way up.

19. Elves get homesick and could be found hiding in the freezer.

20. Elves like to get involved in the decorations: they might be found tangled up in lights, rearranging ornaments, hiding in a wreath or Santa’s sleigh, or riding in a train around the Christmas tree.

{November 27, 2012}   Love It Very Funny

Last weekend I saw something at Larry’s Pistol & Pawn Shop that sparked my interest. The occasion was our 15th anniversary a…
nd I was looking for a little something extra for my wife Julie. What I came across was a 100,000-volt, pocket/purse- sized tazer. The effects of the tazer were supposed to be short lived, with no long-term adverse affect on your assailant, allowing her adequate time to retreat to safety….??

WAY TOO COOL! Long story short, I bought the device and brought it home. I loaded two AAA batteries in the darn thing and pushed the button. Nothing! I was disappointed. I learned, however, that if I pushed the button and pressed it against a metal surface at the same time; I’d get the blue arc of electricity darting back and forth between the prongs.


Unfortunately, I have yet to explain to Julie what that burn spot is on the face of her microwave.

Okay, so I was home alone with this new toy, thinking to myself that it couldn’t be all that bad with only two triple-A batteries, right? There I sat in my recliner, my cat Gracie looking on intently (trusting little soul) while I was reading the directions and thinking that I really needed to try this thing out on a flesh & blood moving target. I must admit I thought about zapping Gracie (for a fraction of a second) and thought better of it. She is such a sweet cat. But, if I was going to give this thing to my wife to protect herself against a mugger, I did want some assurance that it would work as advertised. Am I wrong?

So, there I sat in a pair of shorts and a tank top with my reading glasses perched delicately on the bridge of my nose, directions in one hand, and tazer in another. The directions said that a one-second burst would shock and disorient your assailant; a two-second burst was supposed to cause muscle spasms and a major loss of bodily control; a three-second burst would purportedly make your assailant flop on the ground like a fish out of water. Any burst longer than three seconds would be wasting the batteries.

All the while I’m looking at this little device measuring about 5″ long, less than 3/4 inch in circumference; pretty cute really and (loaded with two itsy, bitsy triple-A batteries) thinking to myself, ‘no possible way!’ What happened next is almost beyond description, but I’ll do my best.. ..?

I’m sitting there alone, Gracie looking on with her head cocked to one side as to say, ‘don’t do it dipshit,’ reasoning that a one second burst from such a tiny little ole thing couldn’t hurt all that bad. I decided to give myself a one second burst just for heck of it. I touched the prongs to my naked thigh, pushed the button, and . ..


I’m pretty sure Jessie Ventura ran in through the side door, picked me up in the recliner, then body slammed us both on the carpet, over and over and over again. I vaguely recall waking up on my side in the fetal position, with tears in my eyes, body soaking wet, both nipples on fire, testicles nowhere to be found, with my left arm tucked under my body in the oddest position, and tingling in my legs? The cat was making meowing sounds I had never heard before, clinging to a picture frame hanging above the fireplace, obviously in an attempt to avoid getting slammed by my body flopping all over the living room.

Note: If you ever feel compelled to ‘mug’ yourself with a tazer, one note of caution: there is no such thing as a one second burst when you zap yourself! You will not let go of that thing until it is dislodged from your hand by a violent thrashing about on the floor.. A three second burst would be considered conservative?

A minute or so later (I can’t be sure, as time was a relative thing at that point), I collected my wits (what little I had left), sat up and surveyed the landscape. My bent reading glasses were on the mantel of the fireplace. The recliner was upside down and about 8 feet or so from where it originally was. My triceps, right thigh and both nipples were still twitching. My face felt like it had been shot up with Novocain, and my bottom lip weighed 88 lbs. I had no control over the drooling.

Apparently I pooped on myself, but was too numb to know for sure and my sense of smell was gone. I saw a faint smoke cloud above my head which I believe came from my hair. I’m still looking for my best friends and I’m offering a significant reward for their safe return!

P.S. My wife, can’t stop laughing about my experience, loved the gift, and now regularly threatens me with it!

If you think education is difficult, try being stupid !!!

{November 27, 2012}   stay or go

If you’re torn between staying and going, maybe it’s time to go. Because if you were meant to stay… then you wouldn’t be thinking about going.

et cetera
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