I Find It Funny

How do guys meet you and think it’s great that you “aren’t like the rest” But then try their damnedest to get you to screw around with them, or “help” them out.

It’s like okay are you not listening? Do you know how stupid you sound and look? Do I look desperate to you? What is it that makes you think that your so great or special that we just met, started talking or been talking and I am going to just say oh what the hell and do it? Especially when we aren’t even talking a relationship or interested in one. They say they just want to see where it goes, just want to be friends, not looking for a relationship. You tell them what your looking for and they still think your just going to make an expression or change your mind for them.

I know it’s the sliver of hope they have and it’s the fun of trying. But dang, I think I would get tired of trying and feel like an idiot for trying after a while. It never crosses my mind to even keep trying if I know someone really isn’t interested. I guess that’s why guys and women are so different.

As bad as the other one telling me you really aren’t like the rest. But you just don’t get how this works. You need to………….

Yes I know how it works and I have no desire to play that game. I have no need to.

Contempt Again and Finally Served

I hadn’t really thought of the deadbeats and child support in a while. I am not sure the last time I checked on it really. For some reason today I was walking through the shop not really thinking about anything and something said check child support enforcement. I went on and forgot about it.

Later this afternoon after I finished up working and had some simi free time I thought of it again. I looked up the case on Father of the Year first. It is showing over $2900 owed but it is more I know. It said just today they sent something to their lawyers to file contempt of court against him again. I figure we won’t get a court date for that until next year. It was aroumd this time last year when they finally did something and we didn’t go until May 15.

Then I looked at the case with R.C. it don’t show anything new so I looked it up at the clerk of courts site. It showed on the 19 I think it is returned or proof of service.

I went back to the child support site and chatted with someone there. She says he was served on 10/2/19. This shows you how long it takes them to get it in the computer and everyone to get the info. She said we are just waiting on a court date for that one too now. I am sure it will probably be some time next year as well.

We get in court I am going to ask about contact and all that. If he wants contact what I should tell her because she has been asking.

I am not looking foward to court with Father of the Year. I do not like the way I felt when he walked in the last time we went. I have to find someone

At least once they get onto R.C and make him pay he will. This with Father of the Year is going to be just another go in tell him to pay x amount of what he is behind and let him go. He cry to mommy and daddy or his boss and get the money. He will skip on about his way and not pay the rest of the year. Why we are in there I am bringing up his rights and getting rid of them.

Cyranny’s Quickie!

Over at Cyranny’s Cove she does what she calls you guessed it Cyranny’s Quickie, where she asked a question of her readers and everyone weighs in on it. Some are pretty thought provoking and some are just for fun. I found today’s interesting. So I thought I would share and answer here. Let you all put in your two cents today. Go over check out Cyranny and tell her I said hi. She has a little something for everyone.

You get three wishes… One for your own good, one for your loved ones, and one for someone you don’t like. What do you wish for?

One for my own good……………………

I would wish to be comfortable in life, I don’t have to be “rich” but a spot where I don’t struggle. I can work one decent job with decent or half way normal hours. I make enough that I wouldn’t have to worry about if I got sick and missed a day, an emergency came up or something. I would know that the money was there to cover it.

One for your loved ones………………….

That everyone would be healthy and happy able to just enjoy life.

One for someone I don’t like……………………………..

For my mother to get a place of her own and forget who me and my kids are. Just leave us alone and not bother us anymore. she is to toxic and has done to much damage there is no desire to have any kind of relationship with her or see/talk to her once she is out of my house.

The Really You Season 1—Game 4

Here you go Game 4 of The Really You 

 

Do you believe things happen for a reason?

Everything happens for a reason. Rather we know the reason or ever find out is a different story.

I feel that the reason a lot of things happen is because people don’t take care of things they are supposed to or need to in their lives. They ignore them and then act surprised when something happens or they end up with the outcome of not taking care of the things they were supposed to.

There are some things that we may never know why they happened or happened the way they did. But I think most things we can pin point where along the line something didn’t go as it should of and caused whatever it is that happen.

 

Have you ever been so hyper-focused on something that you have lost complete track of time?

Lots of times, mostly my school work when I was taking classes. I would sit down and write my papers or do weeks worth of work at one time. Before I knew it, it was dark out. I started in the morning or early after noon.

Now a lot of times at work I get off on one of my many “projects” I am trying to do when it is slow and no one is around and the next thing I know it is time to go home or past.

But those are the times I get the most done I am so focused I don’t notice anything going on around me and I just work.

What contributions can you make as an individual to help with being more environmental and or what have you made as contributions?

We reuse tons of things, empty jars, bags, containers just about anything you can think of. I will take old clothes that are stained or tore and cut them up and use them for rags or to clean up dirty stuff so they can just be thrown away instead of using papers towels. I like to use receiving blankets as rags to clean or shelf liners in closets or the pantry.

When I go through the house whatever it is if it is still in good shape and can be used I will give it away or donate it not just toss it in the trash.

Not Desperate, But Pissed Off

One night last week I was talking to the driver from work that talks to me now and then on my drive home from work. He still makes comments about hooking up and things all the time. I tell him he needs to go over to such and such street he can find someone who will help him. He says he isn’t looking for something like that and how gross it is or what.

Then he says so hypothetically if you were to charge for it how much would you charge. I said I’m to expensive for what your looking for. I laughed and so no really I have no idea because I have never been that desperate. I have always been able to get up get the money and make something happen. Figure out how to take care of things.

I said people who do that are people who don’t want to put in the work to make the money or just looking for quick easy money. They have no interest in trying to make something happen or figure out other ways.

At the same time I was messaging my friend about something my car had done that night when I got in to leave work.  He messaged me back and we were messaging back and forth when it hit me.

The proposition  I made my good friend, when everything happen with the new truck I bought. I haven’t been that desperate but I have been that pissed off. Over being lied to, taken advantage of and the $4000 I just gave him for the truck.

Still that isn’t something I would of said to just any o body like this guy from work or what.

 

 

 

 

Took Time For Myself

I had not been out in months, probably 4 or more. All my time lately has been at work or out with the kids doing something with them. I was starting to feel irritated and in a bad mood all the time. I didn’t want to be at work, I didn’t want to be at home or around the kids. If you are a parent I am sure you know that feeling when you haven’t had a break and your busy with no time to yourself.

My “friend” messaged me during the week and asked if I wanted to go out for a while. I told him I couldn’t go out until Saturday around 8. I never go out on Saturday but I needed the break and figured that by 8 the kids would be settled. We had plans during the day and I figured I would take them to dinner. By 8 they could settle for the night watch movies and play until they went to bed.

I got home and out around 7 and messaged him to see what he was doing. He said he wasn’t ready he was just starting to get ready. I told him that was fine. I had a few things to take care of to let me know when he was done. I went and put my check in the bank and stopped at the pharmacy. He told me he was ready and asked if I wanted to meet at his house and take his car? So I went over there.

We ended up going up to the pool hall having a few drinks, played some pool and talked. We went back to his place and talked for a while and I was home by 11. But it was a nice relaxing night and a much needed break.

I think I am going to see if others want to go shoot some games of pool or darts maybe once a week or every few weeks. I use to be so good at pool and now I am horrible at it. But I love to play. Darts I have never played out anywhere just at houses but had a lot of fun playing. It be better than going and sitting listening to a bunch of people that can’t sing and eating all the time. I am going to ask around tomorrow see who would be interested in going.

The Really You–Season 1—Game 3

Time for day 3 of The Really You Game

 

What makes you laugh, as in really laugh hard?

Most the time my kids are the ones I laugh the hardest at. Other than that would be my friends.

What makes you really angry?

when people don’t take responsibility for the things they are supposed to.  Being asked the the same thing over and over again will probably make me angry the fastest.

Who knows you the best?

This is a hard one, I don’t know if anyone really knows me. As I have said on here before you could talk to people at work, school, friends and close friends and ask them about me and they all would probably tell you something different. But they would all be true. Just like I was told before, everyone seems to know a little bit about you or something of/about you. Even my kids don’t know me as much as they probably think they do. The ones who know the most about me is probably My good friend knowing the most, bff and then “my friend” and J. J probably knows a little more than “my Friend” or about the same.

 

Cancer Sucks

Last week was already a hard week for me being sick and just feeling off. Wanting to cry and just really emotional. Yesterday I woke up sicker than I had been so far. I felt horrible Thursday then alright Friday and Saturday. Sunday I woke up and had next to no voice. I didn’t fall a sleep until after 4 am. I woke up at around 10:30 and everyone was sleeping still. I rolled over and went back to sleep. About and hour or more later, Little Bitty woke me up tapping me on the shoulder. I rolled over and she said I lost another tooth!! She has all the ones across the top in the front missing now. I got her to lay down and watch a show with me for another hour or so. Then I finally got up, took a shower and we went to pick something up for lunch.

The big kids wanted pizza roll things so we went and ordered those. While we waited for them we ran next door to get Little Bitty what she wanted. Oldest and her ran in to get it and I was in the car. I called my friend J and talk to her a minute. I seen she said somethings online. I thought her mom was sick again, she is here. I called she was out with her husband and granddaughter.

She said something about test or the doctor. I said what are you talking about? She said I told you….I said no. She said oh I haven’t talk to you yet. She proceeds to tell me that she has breast cancer. They have done a bunch of different test. More than they would of probably ever done here. That they were sure it is cancer in her one breast. The other test they done they feel she is at extremely high risk of getting it in the other as well. Her mom has had it as well.

She said she is going December 4th to get a double mastectomy and reconstructive surgery. They are going to do a tummy tuck and use that to do the reconstructive surgery. I didn’t release they could do that.  We talked a little more they had left and were driving she asked if she could call me back when they got home. She said she was having a hard time hearing me. With losing my voice and them driving I am sue it probably was hard I told her yes to call me whenever she got a chance.

I didn’t hear from her after that. Then this morning I got some text from her really early about 6 am. She kept saying she was sorry she hadn’t called me back. She said it was hard for her to talk about it and hold it together and how scared she was and thing. She is hoping to avoid chemo and radiation if she can. I know she is scared, I can’t imagine going through that, basically three major surgeries. Plus dealing with your doing this because of cancer and don’t know how it is going to turn out. Not like she knows oh they will do this everything is going to be okay like if it was your gallbladder or something like that.

She had cancer before when she was in her 20/30’s bad. She had female cancer then and I think, had everything removed then.

I know she is scared I feel so bad for her. I just sat in the parking lot and cried when we hung up. Then I pulled it together when the girls came out. I wish I was able to go see her even just for the weekend. If I had somewhere to leave the dogs and the kids. I just leave from work Friday night and get up there Saturday sometime. I leave Sunday in time to be home for work Monday. But I just don’t have the money or way to do it. I have to be here with the kids and need to do a few things to the car.

We had talked about us coming up for Thanksgiving a few months ago but we hadn’t talked much since then. I hadn’t brought it up because I knew things that have happen I wasn’t going to be able to go.

 

The Really You–Season 1–Game 2

As I have not been on in a few days I had a little catching up to do. Glad they were only on 2.

So here goes my answers for Season 1-Game 2 of The Really You

Do you hoard clutter or constantly de-clutter?

I am a middle of the road kind of person. I hoard but not on purpose. I get things to do things with and then get busy and don’t get to them. Or I lay things like kids school work on my dresser so I can look at it later and it is now over taken my dresser.

But it isn’t like paths through my house, can’t cook or sleep in the beds or rats and things kind of hoarding. And I every so often do go through and toss everything or donate it. I just have to get in the mood and have time. I work so much and try to spend free time with the kids I hardly have a minute other wise. But it starts to bug me and I start tossing. That’s the best time because I will just toss or donate not think about well maybe or move it out of the way to somewhere else. I also go through at least once a year and go through every dresser, closet,cabinet,trunk,Ben, or anything else that could have something put into it and clean out all the out of sight out of mind junk that gets forgotten about.

Do you enjoy cooking – if so what is your ‘special dish’  and if not ‘what is the dish you wish you could create?

I like to cook when I have time and people are not underfoot. I don’t like to be rushed, I like to know that if it takes an hour or two that is okay. One thing I really like to make is Oven Fried Pork Chops with cooked apples and green-beans. I will make two kinds of the Oven Fried Pork Chops. The apples are good but haven’t been able to get them to turn out just how I want them. I need to sit down and look as some recipes, I just haven’t had time. It isn’t something I make often.

What are we likely to find in your condiment cupboard?

Adobo, Worcestershire sauce, Garlic powder, minced onions, oregano, Montreal steak seasoning, Bay leaf, thyme, cinnamon, sea salt maybe a few others. Marinades I picked up to try and some things my oldest picked up to use when she is cooking, She is always wanting to cook and try new things. My main go to are Adobo, Steak seasoning and Worcestershire. You can use one of the three on just about anything and everything.

The Really You Season 1- Game 1

Over at the blog A Guy Called Bloke a new game started and I think it will be fun to play along the next few weeks. It is called you guessed it The Really You. 

so here are answers to the first round.

What is your favorite sweet treat?

This is hard because I do not eat a lot of sweets. Never really have had a favorite. But for some reason right now I want a big slice of warm apple pie. No idea why. Maybe it’s just that time of the year.

Okay I had to double back to this one, one sweet I can never get enough of is peanut butter fudge. As much as I do not care for sweets I look foward to it every year at Christmas and once in awhile will make a batch but that isn’t even once a year so maybe that is why. I do not have it to often.

If you want to really relax- What is your go to?

If I am just trying to relax, unwind after work or trying to shut my mind off right now I do my logic puzzles. Where it gives you a bunch of groups of different things and you have to figure out who ends up with what. Add things to and take things away until everyone has what they are supposed to. If not that something else that makes my brain focus on one thing.

What is your guiltiest pleasure?

Just getting away and having a few hours to myself to hang out with friends. Even if its just a quick breakfast before work or a drink after work. I feel bad not being with them even though they are in bed a sleep or at school.

There you have it my three.