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{October 28, 2019}   Back To School, Maybe

I am thinking about going back to school next year. I received mail obe day last week from the school talking about going back and different options there are. They had grade forgiveness and something else I thought I maybe able to get in and get my grant and things back. If I could do that I would just take two classes at a time. It will take a little longer but I think I could handle it and pass them with decent grades not just slide by with C’s and be happy with that. When I started and was able to put tine into them and before accident I was getting A’s and B’s.

A lot of it has to do with my accident because it now takes me more time to do the work than it did before. I have to read things over and over and really think about what it is saying and put it all together and make it make since. It takes me longer to do the work and projects as well.

Where as before when I didn’t have to take all the extra time to read it a dozen times and then to go over it and think about it forever and a day to make it make since I didn’t need as much time to get things done.

But now I can work on it in the day at work and at night as well. I can work on it in the evening on the weekends after the kids go to bed. I am going to have to miss a little work to take a few classes at the schools but I can’t help that I can’t take them on line. But I think both jobs will be alright with that of it is minimal. I think most will be in the mornings so just the day job. If I can work it good enough then I can get out of class and not be late or just be a few minutes late if I can get into an early morning 8 am class that is less than 2 hours.

I will worry about that latter first I have to see if I can make it to the meeting and if I can get back in without costing me over $2000 out of pocket to do it.



{October 18, 2018}   12:45 P.M. Time To Do Something

I have done nothing again today and the morning is over. I have slept and looked for jobs and been on here that is all. I have made some decisions about somethings that I have been thinking about. Other than that I have gotten nothing accomplished today yet. I have been getting up for hours to put dinner in the crockpot and have not yet. Now if I do not do it by 1 or around there I will not be able to. I have to because it has to have time to cook and I do not have time or feel like cooking later.

I have to get some things done here then get the kids from school. After that we are going to go walk the trails or something. Oldest has to be outside and active for an hour 3 or 4 times a week. We have slacked so we will be out a few hours today. It will be good we all need it.

Guess I better go get dinner started and things done I only have an hour and a half before little ones get out of school. I’ll be back later probably.



{September 27, 2018}   Re: My Friend Hates Me

Yesterday I told you all about Little Bitty telling me Her friend hates her well today I walked her to class as always. But today I had a little talk with the teacher. I had Little Bitty tell her who it was and what he was saying.

The teacher was horrified. She said she had noticed the change in her and was trying to figure out why. She said they do not sit by each other so she needed to figure out when it was happening. She said she would be looking into it and put a stop to it.

The way things are set up you can’t go to the class rooms at the end of the day without checking in at the office. So I wated on her to come out and asked her how things went today.

Little Bitty said the teacher took her and the little boy to the office. She wanted her to tell them all that was said and what happen. She said they told her that if him or anyone did this again to stop and go right to the teacher or someone and tell them. They told the little boy he could not say these things to other people and do what he did. She don’t know if he got in any trouble or just talked to. Its all new for her and she is so little. She said he didn’t say anything and left her alone today. She was okay with how it was all handled. I am going to talk to the teacher tomorrow and see what she found our and how it was handled. She did make the comment that she could not change her learning center because those were the kids that were on the same level. This is when this is taking place come to find out. I got news for this teacher, if this kid starts back in on my kid someone is being moved and she will have to figure out how to do things from there.

I am glad they are doing something and not brushing it under the rug. I was shocked when she said he was taken to the office. I figured the teacher would handle it in class and if it happen anymore then maybe office. But I am glad they feel it was important enough to handle this way. May this will show the kid how not okay this is and that he could get in lots of trouble.



{September 26, 2018}   My Friend Hates Me

 

So the first week or so of school Little Bitty loved to go and would race into class to be with her friends. After that she takes forever to get to class wants to stay home and just slow about going into class when we get there. I have asked and ask why the change what was wrong and she says nothing.

Today she came out and we started to walk home and she stopped after a few steps and says my friend is mean to me. He tells me he hates me and he wants to kill me. He is just breaking my heart all the time I try to be nice to him. But he just keeps breaking my heart.

I couldn’t of heard that right ask again she says the samething. I ask if she told her teacher she said no she was waiting for her other friends to tell her. That now he is saying mean things to the other kids and he can’t to that and he is going to break their hearts and that isn’t nice. She says he has been saying this stuff to her everyday. This makes since to me now because around the 2nd week of school the teacher moved her seat because of her hearing. This is when she stop being so exited about going. But why did she wait this long to tell me and only once he started with the other kids and she don’t want him to break their hearts like he has hers.

Her teacher was not there today so I told her we would be having a talk with her in the morning. If she is not there we will be going to the office.

I feel so bad she waited all this time to tell me. Why was it okay when he was doing it to her but now he is others so she tells.



{September 14, 2018}   Dads Bring Your Kids To School Day

I get the news letter from the little kids school and it says this month is Dads bring your kids to school day and have breakfast. I am a little confused as to why this is even a thing?

Why are we going to tell dads to bring their kids to school and then bribe them with breakfast to get them there? Why is a dad doing something a parent is supposed to do and that millions of parents everwhere do everyday such a big deal. I get up every morning and walk my two little ones to school along with a bunch of other moms and dads too. I have to say there are just about as many dads who walk or drive their kids to school as there is moms. So why are we having a bring your dad to school day and making such a big deal of it? I never seen them have a moms bring your kids to school day. I know a lot of schools that do the bring dad to school. Bff’s kids school did it last year.

Then the paper goes on to say you can bring gandpa, uncle, big brother, step dad or another important male in your life. So then why call it dads bring your dad to school day? Is this a way for all the single women at the school to try and meet men? Come on is there anything one wouldn’t do to meet a man? Okay okay just kidding. But really I just do not understand what this random day is all about or for.

I wasn’t going to say anything about it then Mr. 8 came home with a paper all about it and came to me all upset that Mr. 13 told him be would not go to school with him that day. Because he don’t get up that early. So we had a talk and be agreed to go with them that day. I will be there too so I am sure I will get looks but I don’t care. I am not going for anything but to watch from the sides. Make sure kids get to school and class.

Even if it is to get dads more involved with school how well does it really work? I know most dads who do not already come may come for this and won’t be back again once it is over. Besides parents can bring their kids to school and sit with them why they have breakfast any day of the week they would like. So again really why do we need a special day to tell dads or a male figure in your childs life to bring them to school and offer brealfast? For that matter you can do this anytime why have a bring anyone to breakfast day?

Even if RC and Father of the Year were in the picture I would find this to be a crazy idea still. Because when Father of The Year took the kids to school or picked them up when he lived close and didn’t have to work. When I lived with RC he always took kids to school be it mine or his. Most of the time he took mine and I took his because mine were so far away and he went right by there on his way go work. And they had to be there earlier than his. He would be late if he had to take his.

Guys bringing their kids to school is not such a uncommon thing that we need to bribe them to get them to do it.

Anyone a teacher or staff at a school who can maybe explain this to me? Because it seems so bazaar that the schools have this. Am I missing something or is it just as bazaar as I do?

 



{September 11, 2018}   Re:IEP meeting and 45 Minute Nap

I just came back from Little Guy’s IEP Meeting at the school. I was so worried about making it on time and we ended up starting 20 minutes late. My 45 Minute Nap turned into an hour and 20 minute nap. I fell a sleep hard but dreamed odd stuff the whole time. I woke up 15 minutes later than I had planed. At that point I decided to just wait until 9:50 to get up and leave. That gave me 10 minutes to walk there get in and get started. It only takes 2 minutes to walk there. I started to get up get ready and go get coffee at 9:30. But I was worried I wouldn’t get back in time. Had I known we were going to start late I would of, i probably would of went when I got up at 9:50 had I known. But if I had done it they wouldn’t have been running late and I would of. Of well such is life. It is after 12 and I still have not gotten my coffee. I will in about 30 minutes I hope.

The meeting went okay, they said he is behind and he is having a hard time staying on task and keeping up. I figured that because he is not use to all that. One area he scored low in he was tested on the computer. He dont normally use the computer for school related things so I can see why he scored low. The other things he scored low in they feel is because of his speech. The sounds and the way he says them. They are working with him on all of it so that is good. His teacher and the speech lady talked very highly of him how eger he is to learn and that he don’t get upset if he has to be corrected. They said he is very confident in himself and his answers. That he will try to figure things out on his own. His teacher said she was worried about his reading comprehension because he has a hard time with sounds and spells things wrong and reads them wrong. But she said she had him read the story and then did the comprehension questions with him anyway to have a score and see where it was.  She said I don’t know how he does it but he knew and understood the whole story and could amswer all my questions very well. She said if you read it to him he gets it just as good either way. She said most the time if they have a hard time reading amd writing like he does then they do not get the comprehension part because they don’t understand and get the just of the store and what is going on. She said he has some type of coping skill that he has figured out that really works for him.

I ask them if they felt he needed outside testing or evaluations because we have disabilities and things in the family. They said no that they think we should wait and see how their interventions help and if he improves. They think it is mostly do to speech and that he is going to improve a lot with them. Because he is so willing to do them wants to do them and eger to learn. They said if they do their interventions and we don’t see a big change then maybe think about looking into doing more.

I agreed I just told them I know it takes time and things to get the appointments and to find place to do them and things. So if they thought it was going to be something we needed to look into then i could get the ball started because it would take a few months to have it started. This way in 2 or 3 months they say well we need this then have to wait 3 or 4 months to get him in to get it. His teacher said yes that was true maybe give him another week or two before we decided. I said no if you think he is going to be okay and this is more of the issue that is fine. We will just wait and see how things go. They can do all the testing at school just if I have my own done then I can get more help for him if I need to at home. But can’t just with theirs.



{September 11, 2018}   A Holiday or Not

I see and hear so many people I know having a fit about why is today not a holiday. It got me to thinking how many feel today should be a government holiday with school, post office, courts and other things closed for the day? Please answer the pole and then comment explaining why you feel the way you do. I will update with my answer and why this evening after work.

 

 



{September 11, 2018}   45 Minute Nap

It is 8:30 kids are at school and I am home. I am going to take a 45 minute nap, then jump up get ready and go to my meeting. That will give me 45 minutes until we will be sitting down starting not just to get there. I hope to have time to stop for coffee but I don’t know. Time will tell.



{September 11, 2018}   IEP Meeting

Little ones have to be up for school in 2.5 hours and I am still wide awake. I have a meeting at the school for Little Guys iep to be put back in place so he can get service’s. I need a shower and to do my hair. All I am going to want to do is sleep once I drop them off. Once I get out of the meeting I am going to have to work for the night. I have an hour and 45 minutes I could sleep had I did my shower and hair before bed. I guess I will drop them go get coffee and the come shower and do my hair. They have one says bold on it, I may need to try that in the morning.

I do not know what services they are going to offer other than speech. They have to take the developmental delaied label off now because of his age. Not sure what labels they will use now. With my oldest son they told me we have to tell you we have him listed as asd. But we do not know where he falls we can’t do that and tell you we are not allowed. Telling me it is okay not to worry what asd means. Like they are waiting for me to have some horrible reaction to finding this out or something.

They said do you have anything to say? I said I sure do, I said 1. He is Aspergers on the spectrum, 2. Why are you all trying to figureout between you all what services would be best for him? 3. Where is all the paperwork I turned in at the start of the year? 4. How come you are not offering the services the person who is qualified to do all this and put it together says he needs? They all just looked shocked. They said they had no idea he had been anywhere and had an evacuation done. I said well I turned it all into you as soon as I had a copy so he could get services. All this time he not been getting them? They changed the subjected then made me mad there too and i ended the meeting moved school.

I have not had this one tested for anything yet so it should be interesting to see where they want to go from here.



{September 6, 2018}   An Hour of Sleep

I finally did fall a sleep for an hour this morning. I woke up just in time to dress the kids and get them out the door. They just did get breakfasts at school.

Once I dropped them off I came over to Bff’s house and been sitting here with her and the baby. I am starting to feel a little sleepy. I am trying to stay up so I can sleep tonight once the kids go to bed about 7:30. I should sleep through the night.

I didn’t go get coffee but thinking I may need to have a small cup maybe. I would love a nap. But don’t want to so i will sleep tonight.



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