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{January 20, 2018}   Interesting Message

Tonight I go out to watch a show with my little one before we go to bed, she has been asking if I would watch a show with her the last few days. I told her let me finish my school work and then I would watch a show with her. I was playing a game on my phone and sat down on the couch. As I sat down I exited out of my game so I could watch with her. When I did a thing popped up and said that so and so wants to connect with you. I clicked on it and went in to read the message it was a women. The message said is your papaw so and so? If so this is so and so trying to get a hold of him.

I just sat there looking at it. I didn’t know what to think because the name that messaged me wasn’t the name they were saying they were and they asked if he is my grandpa. My grandpa passed in 2012 who ever it was didn’t seem to know that. I started looking at picture but wasn’t sure who it was. I knew I knew the first name but couldn’t put two and two together. I was caught off guard and thinking about all of this in a manner of seconds and trying to decide how to handle it. Then it hit me that the person who was contacting me was the other persons daughter.

The person that messaged me was my cousin that I had not seen since we were little kids probably 9 or 10 year old. The person she said was looking for my grandpa is her mother that I have never in my life met or talked to. I knew my cousins because their dad use to bring them down on vacation and him and my mom were friends and we would meet up and see them why they were here. Their mom is my dad’s sister.

I messaged back and said yes that was my grandpa and that they needed to call me so we could talk please. In a little bit my phone was ringing and it was my aunt. She started asking me about my grandpa her dad I told her he passed away, she asked about my dad I told her he had too. That there was the three of them left and that one was in jail all that. She knew that my other uncle had passed before my grandpa ever did so she had been in contact with my grandpa but not in a while. She was never one that stayed in contact with the family and they said always wanting money and things. I had not heard a lot of good about her but she seemed okay when I talked to her. She is older now and maybe has changed over the last 10 years or more that it has been since anyone had heard from her.

We ended up talking for over 3 hours on the phone and she has messaged me everyday and we have talked and things. She wants me to tell the others she is coming down and things. She had me help them find a motel and all that. They are coming down two days next month. She wants to see grandpa’s grave and things like that. I would not have known her if she walked by me on the street or knocked on my door. But it was nice to get back in touch with my cousins and it will be nice to see them again and to meet my aunt. I have not told any of the family she is coming not even my mom or that I have talked to her. It really isn’t any of my moms business because it isn’t really her family but I am sure she will have enough to say about it. I am just going to tell her that I don’t want to hear it it isn’t any of her business and that you know like it or not she is family and she had a right to know and that her coming here has nothing to do with me that is up to them. They are grown adults free to do what they want. I know she isn’t going to like it because none of them really got along and still don’t she was like the “black sheep” of the family I guess you would say on my dads side but truth be know they all really were.

I asked how my uncle was because I had not seen or heard from him since I was pregnant with my oldest and he wasn’t doing good at that time. I was worried then he may do something to himself he was so bad. But I missed his phone call he didn’t call me back or contact me anymore after that. Him and my mom had stopped talking years before that so she didn’t know how to get a hold of him or anything.

Back when my grandpa was sick and dying he was asking for my aunt and wanted to see her and talk to her. No one else would look for her or tired. I searched and searched all over looking for her but couldn’t find any information about her the kids or my uncle. I told her that too that I had looked for her and couldn’t find her. She said they had been trying to get a hold of me as well but didn’t know how and couldn’t find me. I don’t know how they happen to find me the other night but they finally did.

I guess we will see how this goes when they come down next month. She wants me to move up there where they are. I told her me and the kids were looking for somewhere to move and things. She said it is nice there decent rents family friendly and good jobs. I told her we may come up Spring break and check things out.



{November 10, 2012}   Beyond Pissed

I knew not to go up there tonight I just had a bad feeling about it. My poor baby boy was still really sick and there wasn’t really anything I could do up there. But I wanted to be there for my dad and of course my aunt too. My cousin said she was going alone so I figured I would ride up with her and keep her company and she wouldn’t be there alone dealing with it all. Ex got his mom to come help him with the kids since they are sick and things. I went up. We left here at 4 and got there at like 5:30. My aunt leaves right as we were getting there and said she was going out. My dad stayed home so he was there. He was doing a lot better than he was earlier when I talked to him. I couldn’t understand anything he was saying. We sat around there and talk to him until about 7 and went out to get dinner. We called my aunt when we were leave to so we could pick her up she got out but couldn’t get home go figure. She says no it’s only 8:30. I could tell my cousin was mad but we went home. she called at 10:30 and wanted us to come and get her. She talked like it was just around the corner. We go to get her it’s across town somewhere on these back roads we have no idea where we are get lost and everything else. Then we get there and she sits there for another hour before she leaves. I wasn’t happy she wasn’t. Then she says her friend needs a ride and my grandpa’s girlfriend was with them. We drop the one girl off and head home and my aunt starts about shit that has to do with my mom nothing to do with me I don’t even know anything about it and getting all nasty and things. My cousin told her a few times she needed to drop it and this wasn’t the time or the place and shit for it. She I don’t care and on and on. I didn’t say a word but I wasn’t happy. I am already dealing with more than I want to be or should have to be right now. Now my grandpa passed a way today on top of it all. I am just not in the mood to put up with drunk and shit that has nothing to do with me. We got home and she went in the other room. I had my phone I started trying to find someone to come around and tell ex to call me because his phone  is messed up and I didn’t have his moms number. By now it is 12 am. Everyone slowly went to bed. My phone just and hour before had been blowing up. I finally called my one friend who lives about 6 blocks a way and got her she got up ran over and got him. He drove all the way up there to get me. I tried and tried to get my one friend that lives right next to me where ex was staying when he first moved and couldn’t. He got a hold of me about 230 am. Wanting to know if I was ok and what was going on. I told him and that I had it taken care of that ex was a few miles a way at that point.

I said I guess they went to bed I don’t know don’t care I’m just taking my shit and I am leaving. They will figure out I’m gone when they come out or they wake up. He said that don’t sound like you to not say anything and leave like that. I said yeah I know but if I don’t it is going to get nasty because I’m not going to keep taking it and not say anything.

Dead or a live it is still my grandpa’s house we are all in and he did just pass today. My dad is here and that is his dad too. I have more respect for the two of them to come there and start at a time like that. But after I drop everything and leave my sick baby to be there for them. I am not going to sit there and be disrespected like that for to long and not say anything. I know it wouldn’t have been dropped and she would have been saying stuff about it in front of others tomorrow. I would have loved to just knocked the hell out of her and went on. But it wasn’t the right time or place. Just like it wasn’t the right time, place or even person to bring that up to.

I finally told my dad not long before ex got there he was coming and if he wanted to go home to get his stuff I was leaving and he would be there in a minute. I know my brother was coming up sometime today early to get him I figured save the trip. He said he was going to tell them we were leaving I don’t know if he did or not. I got my bag and got in the car to leave because I knew she would say something about that and I may have snapped then.



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