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As you all know from my other post I feel this whole shut down was uncalled for. If they had not done it there would be no need for these checks. But it is only right that if the government is going to randomly shut everything down or close to everything down for no good reason they should have to do something to help the people out. And really this isn’t even a drop in the bucket compared to how much people are really losing over all this. But it is better than nothing.

But they should not tell people one thing and do something else. When they first signed everything and said it was going to happen they said that everyone would get them no matter what as long as you met the income limit. They brought up people who owed back taxes, student loans, child support and other things they normally take tax money for. They said no this was not affected by that. They were not taking them you would get them.

Because I said to J.W. that they would probably take his for back support he owes. He said no they said they said we would get it because of what is going on they are trying to make sure everyone gets what they need. He was planing on trying to get a car with it. Or at least pay and fix his license and put the rest up for a car. He was excited because it would help him get ahead some. Not have to borrow money or save forever to do it. I told him I would pay to get his license if he wanted to put it toward a car and just pay me back weekly or monthly. Because I was taking a chunk of mine putting in savings for rent. His boss will let him borrow money but she charges him all this interest on it. This way he isn’t paying that and wasting money and can get it paid off quicker. He wants to buy his cousin who pasted away last years truck from his aunt. But she won’t take payments because one of the other kids did that and never paid her for the car. I can understand that. But there is not point in having the thing if he can’t drive it and it don’t need to sit for to long either. It isn’t a lot to get his license back either. It would help him, he has helped me and others have helped me as well. I am in a spot I can help someone then I will. Just a lot more careful about it than before.

Anyway today I went over and seen him before he had to go to work. He went Easter shopping with me. We stopped at the little store to get coffee and some how checks came up because they should be coming out this week. He said that he isn’t getting one now, they have decided to take them for back support owed. He wasn’t happy I don’t blame him.

We went on finished getting our coffee and got in line and I thought of it. If they are doing that then I will get $1200 extra because Father of the Year owes almost $6000 in back support. I looked at him and said that means I will get extra. I was kind of excited about it but not that he wasn’t getting any but that father of the year is sitting there thinking he is going to get this check for doing nothing after he has everything else handed to him and now he isn’t getting it.

J.W. didn’t like that, he got a little aggravated I think. I don’t blame him I really wasn’t trying to sound excited or rub it in. It was just one of those things where you think of something and it is like oh yeah wow or duh I’m just thinking of that. He said I’m getting nothing and your getting it or getting extra. I said hey now I am not getting yours, I have nothing to do with why you are not getting yours. He said I know that isn’t what I mean. I said my situation and yours are two different things. I feel he should get his, should Father of the Year get his no.

Out of 4 cases mine and three others I know about personally who involve child support they do not handle any of it like they should. They let people like Father of the Year skate by and do nothing to him and then ones who are paying or trying to pay do right they make it harder on. You all see how they have done my case and how it has taken them 7 years to even order a dna test on RC.

Then there is J.W case who had an agreement with his ex and was paying who they stepped in and decided that wasn’t good enough or what. Changed it up he wasn’t able to make the payments they wanted him to make so now he is behind. They went to his house and picked him up on his way out the door to go to work and arrested him until someone paid to get him out. He owes no more current child support, just what he is behind and they are still taking his taxes every year and now his check like this.

Then there is my boss who is over paid in support his ex owes him and they keep taking money every pay day out of his check and sending in. They told him they won’t stop taking it out they will just hold it and send him a refund every 3 or 4 months. That is his money that is money he don’t owe and could use but they are going to take it and hold it for no good reason until they decide to give it back to him. He has been to court and everything else over it. The judge ordered it stopped. They did for like a month or two and started again. Because they didn’t like the wording the judge used. Even though they can see that he is paid ahead for x amount of time and the order says it is and that it needs to stop. He was still going around about it a few moths ago. I seen the order and things because he was using the computer at work to type a letter up and send them trying to get it stopped again.

Then there is Bff’s he pays when he wants and what he feels like paying. He is behind now and the only reason he is paying at all now is because it got to the point they were going to take his drivers license away and he would lose his CDL. He don’t want to lose that because he will lose his job. He is an over the road truck driver. So he pays just enough to keep his license and that is it. They don’t care and do nothing to him over it. Let him get away with it.

I know that Father of the Year did not file taxes in years so he will get a paper check so I don’t know how long it will take for them to send it and for me to get it. But I don’t care, it will help whenever it comes. I forgot until I talked to Bff that she owes back support as well so they aren’t going to get anything at all.

I guess it isn’t so much the checks as again the child support office who picks and chooses who to do what to and don’t go after the real deadbeats.



{June 23, 2015}   Counting Down the Minutes

I really want to go to bed but I am counting down the minutes until midnight. I have 5 left right now. But really I will probably have to wait until 12:30 am. My money is supposed to be here today so that I can go get my truck back. I really pray that it comes today like it is supposed to. I have been told it can take up to 3 days to really come. But I noticed Thursday that on my school records instead of saying I had no credit or balance it said I had a – credit and balance for the full amount I am supposed to get between tomorrow and the 7 th of July. My friend said Thursday I would have it within 24 hours of it showing negative but I didn’t get it. I was hoping because I could have gotten my truck back last Friday. But didn’t think it was going to come. When my grand money was supposed to come it said negative for weeks before the money finally came. I don’t know if I will get the full amount tomorrow or if they will hold part of it and I will get it the 7 th even. I really don’t care I just want at least the half I am supposed to get tomorrow so I can get my truck. The rest is pretty much for bills and rent so it don’t matter if I have it now or later I can’t use it for anything else but bills. I keep being told that it probably won’t go in before 3 pm tomorrow even. That kind of sucks because I have my sons therapy from 3 to 4. Then I have to go to the school, the store and a bank in order to get all the money for the truck if they won’t take my bank card for payment at the pawn shop. That is going to cost me around $20 give or take to just get my money if I have to run around all over to get the money. I am watching my email too because they are supposed to send me a email when they put it into my account. Well it is 5 after 12 and no email yet, but who knows how long it may take to get the email once they do it. They had to send me a text the other day and it took forever before I got it. I think I will call and see what they say and go to bed. If it isn’t there when I call I guess I will check when I get up in the morning and then later after therapy. I really want my truck back I don’t want to run out of gas again in this van or worse have it just stop working for some reason.



{November 24, 2012}   Disability What To Do

I have been thinking about filing for disability. I really don’t know if I would have a shot at getting it or not. But with the accident I had a few years ago and all the stuff they say is wrong with my back other than that. I kind of think I would because I am not able to do the jobs that I use to do. I can’t lift things like I use to I don’t have a lot of the strength in my arms and upper body like I use too.  I didn’t get much from the accident everyone says I should have gotten more but a lot of what is wrong is not from that. It is genetic, my  mom has some of the same kinds of problems I have and my aunt I found out on my dads side does too. Even if they didn’t give me full and said I had to work some to it would be better than nothing. I could find something part time even if I had to work in a store or something. I can stand for a little bit just not all day and I wouldn’t be able to do stock and things I would have to cashier or something like that. I have had a lot of people tell me I should try before because of the depression and anxiety and my heart. But I never had a problem with the depression as bad as I have the last few years and no where near as bad as it has been the last year. The heart thing I don’t think would get it at all anyway. Then I had the accident and messed my back and neck up they said try because of that. But at the time I was working I missed a few days and took off early a few days when it first happen but other than that I was able to do my job. It was in a office and I sat most all day if I needed to get up and stand I could or walk around some. It really wasn’t a problem. But then I got laid off. I didn’t have all the problems with my back as I do now then. I just had hurt it in the accident. I have always liked to work and wanted to work so I didn’t want to get on something like that and them tell me I couldn’t work or could only work a few hours a month or something. But now with the way things are and as bad as they are saying my back is I feel like maybe I should go and file.

I know of so many people that use to come into different jobs I had or who lived around me different places who were on it. Most of them had nothing wrong with them at all. If they had something it was something that was hard to prove or disprove. I know of a lot of older people who have worked for years and all their life who are really sick and need it and have to fight and get lawyers and everything else and to get it. Then some of these people get around better than me. I asked them if it was hard to get and things like that or how they got it because they seemed ok. They say oh just go down there apply tell them whatever is wrong with you because you are going to get turned down anyway. When they turn you down reapply after the 3 or 4th time you apply they get tired of dealing with you and they will give it to you. I thought this had to be a joke or mistake. But I have had so many many many people tell me that over the years. But then here I sit with the problems I do have and still go to work and want to work. Right now I am having such a hard time finding something and I know a lot of it is because I can’t do all the pulling lifting and things like that that I use to do. That is what it is there for people who can no longer do the jobs they are use to doing. I wouldn’t even care if they turned me down and wanted to train me to do something else instead. I seen on their site it said that sometimes they will retrain you instead of giving it to you. At this point I would do that because if I knew more on the computer or something like that I would get a job doing something like that. I would rather work but if I can’t because of this I have for years my ex has for years my dad and things have and paid into all these people who basically tell you they have nothing wrong with them but they just give it to them to get them to go a way why I don’t feel as bad about going down there and at least trying.

The worst they can do is say no. I won’t be any worse off than I am now. The best they can do is say yes and even if I end up somewhere in the middle and they retrain me. I won’t be worse off I will at least be a little better off than I am now. I keep telling myself not to do it and a job will come along and things but I been looking for 6 months and can’t find one. The longer I put it off the longer it will take to get it started. Then I could be worse off because if I don’t find a job and haven’t applied then I could maybe be getting something that I’m not that could be helping.

I just don’t know half of me says do it and the other half says don’t. I for whatever reason feel like I don’t deserve to get it or shouldn’t get it even if they say I should. I don’t know why I feel that way but I do. I tell myself it isn’t like I am just going and getting something with out anyone knowing. I have to go threw all their stuff and they have to decide if they think I should get it or not and if they think something is bad enough wrong then what shouldn’t I get it? I have worked and paid in off and on since I was 14 years old. I should have it if they say I should as much as the next person. But I never do or get things for myself so I guess this kind of goes along with that. I am going to think about it the next few days and decide what to do. If I am going to apply I need to do it now because it takes at least 6 months from the time you apply before you can get your first check. But if they say you get it they back pay you from the day you applied.

What do you think should I apply or shouldn’t I?



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