Shit Talking 101

I told you a while back in my post 34 to 54 and Us in-between about the one driver at my night job trying to take me and the other guy I work with at night out for a drink and to hang out. When he said no he kept asking me. We have been messaging back and forth and talk on the phone once in awhile. But that is it nothing else at all. He keeps trying to get me to go out with him and meet him and “help” him out. We mostly just joke around.

He said to me the other day I know nothing is ever going to happen between us, your just easy to talk to, joke around with and fun to talk to. I’m not trying to offend you or make you made. I said nope don’t make me mad. Takes a lot to get to me or make me made.

So he is always saying stuff and talking shit. I told him the other day all you guys take that same Shit Talking 101 class and think you are the man. You all say the same thing and it gets none of you anywhere. He comes off with class I wrote the book. Blah, blah. I laughed and told him I wouldn’t admit to that. Later I told him, he may want to rewrite that book and do some more research. It comes up here and there I say something about that class. He said something I said you really should just burn the book. He said yeah I think you are right. It has been no help so far.

He said something about getting together maybe if he kept trying one day I would change my mind.

I said you can get in line with the others but it never moves just so you know. I sent him this picture

He says I skipped and jumped ahead I’m first in line. I said first middle last next to the back or front really means nothing when the line never moves.

Another time we were talking and he was saying something and I made a wise crack. He said why do you have to be so mean and cold? Laughed. I sent

 

He made comments back and then says and as for my balls….um…um. yeah I don’t know what to say to that.

 

I replied

 

 

 

 

Last week I posted that I was looking for an office or two, to clean on the weekend. He massaged me a few days later and said he had carpet to put down in his truck and wanted to know if I wanted to clean the truck and help him lay the carpet.

I laughed at him and said oh so is that what you guys are calling it now laying carpet? He said no no really I seen you were looking to make some extra money and I need the truck cleaned. Doors, windows, windshield, shelves, bunk all that. I need the floor cleaned good so I can lay the carpet. I may need help getting it cut and laid down so it don’t take forever. I’m not trying to get you in my truck and do something. I said um hum sure I bet you have some candy too.

He said no we all pretty much keep the same truck we do what we want or with them and have to keep them clean. He said really if you talk to some of the other guys they may pay you to clean theirs out when they get back from their runs. Most don’t feel like it or want to take the time to clean them.

I told him I would have to see I wasn’t sure. That it would depend what time I got off work. it was Friday the kids wait up for me to get off and come home on Fridays since there is no school the next day. I had to go home normal time so they weren’t waiting because my little one gets tired and would fall a sleep.

I told him maybe one other night during the week when I got off since they would already be a sleep and I didn’t have to rush home. He showed up to put the carpet in the truck and show me he really had carpet and wasn’t just saying it and he really needed it cleaned. Earlier when we were messaging about it he asked me how much. I really don’t want to do it because it is late and I am tired after work. I didn’t want to do it being out there and in the truck and things because you know how people talk and I don’t want to have shit started about oh being in his truck or whatever. Even if just joking someone takes it to far and I would go off, say something and who knows where it would go from there.

I told him $25 he said that was steep, I said I don’t know never done anything like that before. He said it is only about 30 minutes worth of work probably. I said I don’t know how much is it worth or what do you think? What were you thinking to pay? He said no I pay it that is alright. I am just thinking it is late, I am doing this during the week after working two full shifts, I’m tired and even if it is only 30 minutes of work is it worth it to me for less than $25? It is a one time thing not full time like if it was an office or what i was looking for. So if he really wants it done and to make it worth it to me to do it when it is harder to do than cleaning an office really at least $25. Because I have to climb up in the truck get around and under everything in a tight space, up and down with supplies buckets of water and things to clean and clean the floor. bending under and around everything. I don’t have all that in an office I’m not bending under and around stuff to clean the fools or under the dash and things in an office. That is all hard on my back and getting all the buckets and things of water up and down. That is like cleaning bathrooms, making beds and that kind of thing that kills my back and I can’t do all the time. That is why offices are easier and I can go in there at 3 am on a Saturday or Sunday or 9 pm. As long as it is clean before they get back Monday. I am not having to do it after a double shift tired and wore out already.  I never did do it he didn’t get a hold of me over the weekend and is back out. I figure he will want to do it when he gets back. Hopefully he forgets it or does it himself.

He is a nice guy but just older than I am looking for and he isn’t looking for anything other than someone to go to dinner with or have drinks with once in a while when he is here and hook up with. I am not looking for that. I’m not looking to get into anything with anyone from work. Friends that is it nothing more.

 

A Good Man To Help

I was talking to Pops at work yesterday or the day before and we were talking about things with the kids and bills and all that. He said now all you need is a good man to help you.

I just looked at him he said what really. Your doing so good you turned things around and getting ahead. You just need someone to help you now you your going places. But you need a good one.

I laughed I said yeah I don’t think that is out there anymore.

He said it is, it will find you.

I just looked at him again.

He says there are some still left out there, just be patient. It will happen.

I said yeah one day I guess.

I would love to meet someone but I go back and forth if I think I will or not. I don’t I know I do but I tell myself forget it, there are no decent ones out there. But I know there are I do. I look at the people I work with at my two jobs, it’s all guys at both. I look at guys I meet out and about. They are so different, it’s life we all live right around the same area why did they come from why don’t I run into guys like this when I am out and about? What do they all stay home locked up in their houses? I just don’t get it.

 

Men…..Need I Say More

Why is it men feel the need to explain things or clarify things anytime but when you want them to?

I can’t count the number of times this has been said to me.

Why do guys always start off with…..I’m not stalking your page but….

dude if you seen something you like or want to know about just ask. 99% of the time we aren’t going to think anything of it. But when you start off with I’m not… but….you guilty as hell and lying through your teeth 😆 sounding like a 5 year old um I was doing what you told me in the living room but I noticed the cookies on the top shelf in the back of the pantry that’s in the kitchen. Can we have one🤣

For real why do you feel the need to tell me you haven’t been stalking my page if you really haven’t? Telling me you haven’t been seems as if you are feeling guilty. But anyway.

Then yesterday I left my day job and headed to the night job. I followed this little convertible with it’s top down over the bridge. There was a guy driving. When we came off the bridge we ended up right beside each other at the light. He was in the far left lane and I was in the right lane next to him. I never looked at him I was doing something not even thinking about it really and he starts revving it up. I see what he is doing and I decide not to l look and he just keeps on getting louder and louder every time. I never did look over and the light turned green. I went and got over right in front of him. He was so mad he turned off and went the other way. I passed him again a few blocks up the road back on the road we were on to start with and going on.

A car with a dealer licence plate don’t impress me. It has a dealer plate he is either test driving it or probably work there and had to take it to get something looked at or something to go do and slapped the plate on it and went. Even if it didn’t have a dealer tag the look at me, look at my car, look what kind of car I have or I am driving mentality does nothing for me. It takes a lot to impress me and what you have or can buy isn’t going to do it. If they have that mentality of look at me look what I have or can buy the odds are their personality isn’t going to be doing much impressing either.

These guys try way to hard. But I guess that it what they have come to expect that most or a lot of these women want. The whole I’m not stalking your page thing don’t bother me, I just find it really funny because I have had I don’t know how many of them say it to me mid sentience when we are carrying on a normal conversation. Why not just say what was this or that about or that picture was a nice picture?

Like the guy I work with at work asked me how my sons party went last night we talked for a bit. He knew about it from facebook. He didn’t have to stop and say I’m not stalking your page but I seen you had a party over the weekend for your kid. He just ask how the party was and where the park was.

Dating and Pictures

Have you all checked out the facebook dating thing they have going on? It is better than that meet me disaster they had before. I looked at that once for a minute or two and that was more than enough for me.

I seen the other day they have something new simple like them or don’t click and go. You put in a little bit of information about yourself and the what you are looking for. You can answer some other questions about yourself and add pictures.

one of the questions is do you have children and do you care if the other person has children? No big deal I have no problem answering those. I have noticed that a lot of people who say they have children add pictures of their children or of them and their kids. I don’t know what I think of that. I never thought to add pictures of my kids or of me and them. As you all know I keep them out of all that kind of thing. It just seems odd to put pictures of them up on a site that your looking to meet people on. Is that just me or am I being unreasonable?

While we are talking about pictures lets talk about some of these other pictures guys are posting on there. They look like killers, mugshots, or video still shots the cops use when they are looking for someone. Then you have the ones that are half naked or in towels. And is it a rule that you have to have a fish in your picture if you are on one of these things?

I hate the pictures of myself and hate having to put them up there or anywhere really. But if or when I do I am really picky about the ones I put up. I think maybe it is just the area we are in. We still have that really shallow  Dating Pool.  That probably explains it all honestly.

Indirectly Invited To….

The guy that I was hired to replace at my nigh job, who ended up not leaving has made some comments lately. I for once have been left speechless.

A week or two ago he was talking about getting approved for a loan on a house. They are going to break ground in a few weeks. He was saying how he was thinking about buying the house he is in and the lot next to it. He said he was going to put a work area and pool over there. Then he says he thought about it and the kids were about grown so they would’t be around to use the pool. Then he says I told the wife oh we could have some fun swingers parties and laughed. Then says want to come to a pool party? I didn’t say anything just laughed and we went on.

Then the other night something was said on t.v about bringing a women home, he said yeah the last women I brought home my wife got kind of mad about. I don’t know if she got madder about me bringing her home or telling her she was for her.

There was another swingers comment and invite made as well. For the life of me I can’t remember what it was. I don’t know how to take it or what to say. It is kind of awkward, the way he says it, it’s like he means it and feeling me out to see what I say and then passes it off as a joke and goes on when I just laugh or make some kind of comment.

Do I have a sign that says hey I want to swing with you and your wife or be your partner for your next swinging event or lets make a profile and see what happens?

What has everyone into this? Have they always been this into it? Where have I been that I didn’t know so many were into it or notice? Or is it something that has been taboo and now all of a sudden everyone feels they can talk about it and don’t have to hide it? Why do they all feel the need to tell me and invite me? Again i don’t get it.

Don’t get me wrong I am not condeming it or think any different of anyone who is into it doing it, done it or tried it. I feel that as long as everyone is consenting adults then no harm done whatever they want to do. But it is not something I want to just jump into with someone from work and his wife I just met. Or something I want to jump into in a relationship right off the bat. Maybe once things are set and going good between us and we are together and doing good it would be something we could consider. I can see there being pros and cons to it.

Just like I told my “friend” I’m not saying no but not from jump. Yes we been doing this between us a while but when you start talking relationship that is a new area we are getting into and changes thing up. We need to figure that out, what that looks like, means and is going to work before we go doing things like that. This is all new for me and I need to check it all out too and he needs to know some things understand some things. Yes I trust him or I wouldn’t be with him in anyway friends or other wise but there are always risk when you are bringing others into it all.

As if dating and relationships aren’t hard enough everyone seems to want to jump into all this right out of the gate.

 

 

A Swinging Conversation with My “Friend”

Monday afternoon my friend messaged me and ask if I was ready to come over and take some xxx rated pictures for our sls profile.

I had no idea what he was talking about we don’t have a profile but had an idea. I said sis? He said yeah swingerslife style or something like that. Where couples go to meet other couples.

I made a joke about not h

Knowing about that or having time for it. He said I could make time if I wanted to. I joked and said I can’t find one he wants me to scare a room full off.

He said what guy? “I will find one for you. If you listen to me I’ll teach you what guys like 🙂”

He asked again if he could find me one and what I was looking for. I told him not just a hook up.

Then I get

??… I mean I would be looking for more with you. but I have been trying to get you to show me you can give me what I want. You dont seem to be able to though.

At this point I was getting on the highway and did not respond. I been thinking about it and how to respond to it. This was Monday we were talking. This evening I am sitting here at work and was thinking about something and went to read it and maybe try and reply. I am in one of those very odd emotional states and I am all over.

When I open it the first thing I notice it says in blue and white you can not reply to this conversation. I thought no way, what. I went outside to get a connection and sure enough he blocked me.

Why would he do that? Why would he block me because I can’t do what he is asking. I have been upfront and honest with him.

I was going to tell him look I am interested in trying to be more. But there are a few things that have kept me from it. Tell him what they are go from there.

I am willing to try and do different things but he has to understand where I am coming from and how I feel. He needs to meet in the middle. Nothing wrong with swinging or what but I’m not into that. And the being able to see eachother and things with our hours.

I was going to tell him how he has been the one there for me and how I feel. Now I dont know what to think. Is he mad? He is upset and pulling away? I just seen him last week. I am so confused. Thought about texting him. Dont know.

34 to 54 and Us in-between

Over the weekend when me and Bff went out and we were talking she told me about this guy at work who has been talking to her. She said but he is only 34!!!

I laughed and told her I almost went out Wednesday for a drink with a guy from my night job before I had told her I would go with her. But I didn’t because I am not interested in him that way and I know he is. The kicker he is 54 or around there. He told me he had his first son when he was 25 and his son is around 29 now.

Then there is me and her 38 and 41. She is freaking out because he is so much younger and I am freaking out because he is so much older. She said something about the guy at work and his name. They have the same name.

At least there is only a 7 year age difference between him and her. But I am with her he is still so young. He has no kids never been married. I told her it don’t hurt to have some fun but be upfront that she just wants to be friends. Nothing wrong with dating or going out as friends.

The one at work is a nice guy but 16 year age difference he is like my moms age. I just can’t go there. He been married, divorced and has kids, he works, has his own place and things.

On top of that we all work together. Well not all of us but the guy she is talking to works with her and the one talking to me works with me. I don’t want to go there.

Why can’t we meet nice, decent guys closer to our age that have their shit together?

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