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{December 20, 2020}   I Hope He Likes It

I got JW a backpack for Christmas. He has one that I have been trying to get him to replace all year. He say’s there is nothing wrong with it. It is a mess, I don’t know how long he has had it but it is time for a new one. I am pretty sure he told me he got it out of a car at his old job and he hasn’t been there for a year or two. Who knows how long he had it before he stopped working there.

He just won’t buy things for himself. It is like pulling teeth to get him to buy clothes, shoes or anything if it is for him. I start throwing stuff away he has to go get something. We go to wash clothes he tells me don’t throw stuff away while I am loading/unloading the truck. So I don’t, I toss it while I am gathering everything up. He told his boss the other week he needed new work shirts because I threw his away because they were so messed up. When they come out of the wash not looking any better than when you put them in and they don’t feel clean. It is time for them to go. She gave him 2 or 3 more.

I had no idea what to get him for Christmas. I thought of his backpack and he won’t buy one. I started looking and good lord batman, have you seen the prices of good decent backpacks? And something that isn’t kid size? I didn’t find anything I liked I thought he would like for under $60 and that was settling not even really getting what I would of like to get. The others were like $100 and up. And nothing special about them just because of the name or the store that is selling them. If I found one I wanted at good price it was sold out or something.

The other morning I had the idea to look at the Army Surplus stores around me. I looked them up and clicked on the first one to see what they had. I was surprised they had nice stuff at decent prices. I have never been in one of these stores or on their sites so I had no clue what to expect. I found two I liked.

I liked the all black on and I liked the black or green one in the 2nd picture. I decided against the green I just couldn’t see him using it everyday. His now is all black but he found it didn’t pick it so couldn’t go by that really. I ask a few people they both said different things. I finally went with the bottom one. I hope he likes it but if he don’t I will take him to trade it for a different one. I don’t mind i want him to have something he likes.

The backpack is what I had to go pick up before work yesterday. I bought it online but told them not to ship I would pick it up Saturday. I got it and went straight to work. I took it in with me and took it out and checked it out. I really like it. I think he will too.

He keeps saying he has to get me something but I am going to be with him. I told him I will go shop he can find me when he is done. He keeps asking what I want I really don’t know what to tell him. I don’t like telling people what I want. One they never get anything close to it and 2 I don’t want to tell people here buy me this. Those should be switched around. Not that they need to buy what you say. But when they ask then get something like it but different then say. I didn’t get the other one because I didn’t like it. I liked this one better. Why ask if you are going to get what you want anyway? If I say I like x that is what I like. I didn’t say z because it isn’t what I like. I just hate it because what they bought will probably never or hardly get used because it won’t work for me, hints why i said what i did. And i don’t want to trade it or they get upset you do. But then get upset if you don’t use what they gave you.

When I buy a gift I take time to try to put thought into it make it something personal they like, need, want or something that is just them. Not I got you this because I needed to get you something and I liked it. So if someone is going to get me something they know me get me something you think i would like or use. What makes you think of me? I have bought lots of gifts I did not like or wouldn’t use or buy for myself or home. But I knew the person I was getting it for it was perfect they would love it and use it.

But anyway, I think after picking it up he will like it and use it. The picture made it look unsure. I like it for him.



{May 12, 2019}   Happy Mother’s Day

Hope you all are having a nice relaxing day. I am stressing over money and doing the normal mommy duties. I recieved a coupon book from Mr. 8 cards a picture and paper flowers from Little Bitty.

Yesterday I thought about court coming up on Wednesday and not having any nice clothes that do not fall off. Me and the girls went to Wal Mart and I found a nice pair of pants and a shirt. I can put my heels on with them and it should work.

I cropped it because I look horrible after working on the truck and spending hours at the park with the kids. But my mothers day gift and outfit for court.



{August 24, 2018}   5 Weeks instead of 4

As I said in my other post An Envelope of Money, I am not sure if I will get $650 for the month or $800 since there are 5 weeks this time. I was talking to bff today and I told her our paper says I get $500 a month for support and $150 a month towards back pay. It says nothing about if there is extra given and what that will be used for. I told her I am not putting it towards back pay. I am taking it as money for his half of all the extra’s he is supposed to be paying besides support. Like clothing, shoes, school supplies, doctors co pays and everything else he is supposed to pay half of.

Really we don’t have 5 weeks but two maybe three times a year so that is nothing again compared to what is really spent on those things. So he has no reason to complain. If he does to bad.

Because honestly he with him not paying through the courts and child support enforcement like he is supposed to is only hurting him. From what I have been told if it ever gets to the point of having to go through them anything he has paid is considered a gift and not part of his child support because he is not paying through them like he is supposed to. But you know what that is on him because I have tried and tried to get him to do it the right way. He is the one who don’t want to pay and don’t want to get a job that will take it out and send it in. If he has to pay it a second time to bad, because he should be paying a lot more than what he is anyway. He lied about what he is making got it that low. A friend told me he is paying $750 a month just in support not even back payment for one kid and I was given $488 for three.

I know it goes by what he makes, how many kids and how many over nights they have. But mine lied about what he made and how many over nights he was going to have. So he should be paying a lot more than he is. Then the fact he isn’t paying half of anything. If he ends up paying twice all I can say is Karma baby. I will not feel bad at all if it happens because of the way he has treated them and the fact that I try to do it right he won’t.

 



{May 11, 2015}   Dare I Say It

I have had my frogs for 1 year this month. I got them for mothers day last year.I started out with 2 Roxy and Trevor then added a third last year sometime. I also redone their tank. I put in different rocks and some little figures decorations along with the pots. IMG_20150511_204610 This was feeding time tonight. That’s what is floating at the top of the tank.

 

 

 

 

I haven’t gotten to spend to much time watching them lately with the holidays and then all that has been going on this year. But my little bitty has taken a interest in them more. She pulls her little chair up and makes sure it is pushed in good. Then she stands up on it and watches them. We feed them together and she just chatters away to them. They have gotten to where they are starting to come to the front of the tank and swimming around when they see her even when it isn’t feeding time.

I am sure I will be spending more time watching them once I get everything going with school and things. I will probably be studying in the living where they are. I am going to be moving things around as well. They will be in a better spot to watch them.

IMG_20150511_204645Just chilling about to catch some food.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This one I think was taken a few weeks a go. 20150306_020929Yeah because the pot in the middle back is standing up. I don’t know how they got it knocked over. Crazy things move or knock everything over. The poor turtle was sitting up as well they knocked him over right away. When the pot in the back was sitting up and the turtle in there, my kids said it looked like a scene from the first Mario Brothers game. Where you could go down in the cans and fight off the turtles. The frogs would get down in the pot then pop up out of it.

They really are such low matnice pets I can’t believe how easy it has been to take care of them and keep them alive. Easier than beta fish even. I think I have cleaned the tank 4 times. We have went through so many beta fish it isn’t even funny. We had I think 6 in just a few months. The kids just won two the other week and with in a day one got killed. My little bitty tried to give it a bubble bath and poured body wash in the vase. My sons is still alive but he put it up on a shelf on the wall where she couldn’t reach it. But even the others we didn’t do anything to them. We put them in a 2 gallon tank feed them. They died. Best Christmas present ever, NOT. But my frogs really are a pretty awesome gift. And great for someone who don’t have a lot of time to keep up with a pet but wants one.



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