My Meeting with My Lawyer

Well guys I sat down to start an update and could have sworn I posted something since what was showing up. I started writing feeling a bit confused and decided to stop and poke around. Sure enough I did write something and I guess I was falling a sleep and saved instead of posted it. So here is Tuesdays Post a little late.

I really did not feel like being at therapy or talking about anything at all really. Most the time was spend trying to figure out how or where to make some money and where to maybe get a job. I was fine with that I just felt in a funk and not like talking at all.

 

Today after therapy was my meeting with my lawyer about the accident I had last year. It was a phone conference I thought I could do from home but I couldn’t I had to go a few cities over to meet my lawyer who was coming from counties away to be with him while we had it. I got out of therapy a little early so I got down that way early. I found where I needed to be and was going to go grab a burger and tea through the drive through for $3, because I was thirsty and hungry. Something said to just go to the meeting so I could talk to the lawyer and explain some things to him. It’s a good thing I did because they gave me floor and room and when I got there they told me someone else was in that room they didn’t know who I was talking about. I called the lawyers office and they said they had that floor and different floor. She said to go down to the next floor and check there. I got down there and all was there was Federal Fraud this and that. She told me she was going to call the lawyer and call me back so she could see where he was. She said to go back to the 4th floor and ask for a different room. I got up there and the lawyer was out in the front waiting for me then. I guess the office had changed some things and his office had written some thing wrong when they were telling them.

When we got in there I asked him how it went from around $40,000 to $80,000 some thing? He said that At&T finally turned their numbers in for their damage and it was $42,000. I said how there wasn’t that much damage to their box at all. He said really? I said really the car came to rest against it but It didn’t really damage to it. He said man I hit said he didn’t think it was that much damage either. Surprising enough the At&T guy was the first on the phone. The lawyer started asking him about it and told him that we both were saying we didn’t see how there was that much damage to that box so we were questioning what had been done. He told us that they opened up an “engineering” ticket for the work order and that every time we seen an hour this day or hour that day they were out looking to see what they should be doing and what parts to order and things like that. Of course we don’t know how many times they were out there because we aren’t watching the pole all the time and things. The AT&T guy said to give you and idea it is $13,000 just for the box and then all the little circuit boards that go into it cost so much and the labor for the workers. The lawyer just said okay and if that is what they said kind of and we waited for everyone else to get on the line.

Once everyone was on the line they went over my financial paperwork. My lawyer told them I am a student I get so much SSI for my son and I have student loans for the rest. They asked about Father of the Year and him supporting the kids or what. I said we have not been together for about 6 years and he has paid maybe a year of child support in that time. I got about two months of support this year and that is it.

The lawyer started going over who was asking for how much and he got to AT&T and said they were asking for $42,000. The man I hit spoke up and said how are they asking for that much there is no way that there was that much damage ? He said Bright House was here before the car was even off their box and three guys spent a few hours or so out here to fix it, there was no internet service or cable why they were fixing it there was an outage. He then said I am a customer of AT&T and we never lost phone service, the box is right outside my door and no one has ever been here not once to look at that box. He said it is still leaning and has a dent in it.

The AT&T guy started about how the box had to be replaced, the box was tore off the slab and laying in the road, it messed up all the wiring and all this inside and all the boards. The guy I hit said what are you talking about the box was not in the road or tore off the slab. There was nothing in the road the cars and things were on the side of the road and in my parking lot, it happen right outside my company. He told them again he was looking at it and it was still there never replaced. He told them he had a time and date stamped picture of it then and he could take one of it now and show it. He asked them and my lawyer asked them what the address of this box they fixed was because they had not even put it on their paperwork when they turned it in. He started saying all these street names and the cross road of this and that. He stopped them and said wait there is not cross road we were right on the side of the high way. The roads they were talking about are across 6 lanes of traffic and a medium and blocks away. The AT$T guy was saying the wall is there and this and that and the stuff in the street. I was looking at my lawyer and shaking me head no this wasn’t right there was no wall and things. Then they gave us the address and things. So then the AT&T guy tried to say it looks like there were two accidents around the same time on the same day then and said something about November 2nd. Me and the man I hit both were like no this accident happen in September there is nothing close to being related here.

Then the AT&T guy just stammered and didn’t really know what to say. He was just like I don’t know how this paperwork got her name tied to it, I just got this case not long ago whatever whatever. But you know what whenever you got it you should have researched it and knew what was going on and that your going after the right person for the accident. Because this wasn’t a lawyer for AT&T or anything like that this was just one of their employee’s that is put in charge of investigating damage and handling this kind of things.

My lawyer I think it was said he guess they needed to wait on AT&T to get their information together and meet again with all this. That we really couldn’t do anything until we knew how much each part wanted. The guy from AT&T said we are out, I’m done. All the others went on talking and things like that and it came up again and it was said they had to wait for all the numbers to be turned in and the AT&T guy again said not being rude but I’m out I am done with this. My lawyer said so your pulling out of the suit then? He said yes I have no information on this the man is saying the box has never had anything done to it someone here has messed up. He said if something needs to be done I will sign the work order and we will eat the cost because I don’t know anything about this case we have no information.

I was like oh thank God this man I hit has his company right there by this box and he was able to say no this is not right and the same box is still there and it was pushed farther and we found out they were wrong. Because I had no pictures and I could not say if the box was or was not replaced or if work had or had not been done to it. I probably would have just been on the hook for it when it was all said and done. I was questioning why they started work in November myself but was waiting for them to all get done talking and when the man I hit started my lawyer was just like SHH just let him talk and let them figure this out between them. Then we will jump in but right now he is getting a lot of information and putting a lot out there. Let him get it all he has to say out there.

They are still saying I am on the hook for like $50,00o something I am not sure about all that, I am going to call and have the office send me a copy of everyone who wants money and how much. He could only do so much and get so much info today because he was working remote didn’t have printer and fax. The lawyer that is. He was super nice not what I expected at all. Some are just kind of stuck up look down on you or what. But he wasn’t that way he was joking around and things and wishing me luck on school and said he really wanted to make this go away. He even told the other insurance company’s lawyer with the insurance company and everyone else on the phone I know your client is not the easiest to work with and don’t do a lot that makes since but.

But he told me when we were talking before it all started that he seen the other company sue a kid for $500. He said the filing fee’s are about that and then they used a lawyer and the fee they had to pay the lawyer was $1500 so they spent more than they eve got but that is how they do. Even my company said they sue everyone. So hearing that I figure they are going to want to go to court and have a judgment put against me for the money they want. Like he said and the other guys said you can’t get blood from a turnip you know. But the other company kept talking about what would be available to me in the future. So they are going to be asses to deal with I am sure.

They dropped Father of the Year before we ever got together because of an accident. But the accident wasn’t even his fault the other people caused it and they hit him. They both had same company and dropped both of them. They are known for some shady things.

Two Unexpected Calls Yesterday

I got a call from the insurance office and the lawyer yesterday. I called the lawyer back and they wanted to send a financial paper over so I can tell them about all the money I have coming in and all over the money I spend every month. She said they will email it to me and the lawyer is supposed to call me next Thursday or Friday to go over it with me. I wanted to tell her there would be no need for that because I have nothing. I didn’t.

I called the insurance office back and finally got a hold of the guy. He was a lot nicer and better than the first two people that have had my case. He just said he wanted to let me know he was on my case now and what was going on. If I had any questions or worries to give him a call he would help me out or get the answers for me. I told him I had talk to the lady at the lawyers office and she was sending paperwork.

I told him I just got divorced it finally went through that we hadn’t been fighting in court but we had been fighting outside court for a while now and he finally agreed to everything and we got it done. He said he thought they just needed my information because the car was only in my name. I said yes it was and I asked him what they were looking for because I truly have nothing. He said anything other than your home you live in, anything over 1 car that you own, bonds, stocks, employment, any businesses that you own and other things.

I said I am a single mom of 4 kids, I am a student. I told him I rent, we hadn’t owned our home in years now, that I had one truck and that was the truck that I was in the accident in and other than that I have the contents and furnishings for my house that was really it. That I just have what we needed and had to have to get by right now because I wasn’t working and because we did not plan to stay here once I got out of school. We plan to move a way and start over new when we get where ever we decide to go. He said he understood he said State Farm sues everyone not to worry about it. He said we try to take your information on that paper and show it would be a hardship for you to pay and that you really do not have it to pay and probably can’t even if ordered to and try to get them to just settle for what we have to offer. I said the worse case is they are going to get a judgment saying that once I start working they can ask to be paid and to look at my income and see if or what I can pay then or if I ever get anything they get their money right? He said yes worse case that is all that they can do is get a judgement. He said I have seen people say I can’t pay over $6 a month and that is what they pay. He said just don’t stress or worry about we are going to do our best to get you out of it and not have to pay anything. He said he pays good money to have the coverage he has and these companies make a lot of money every day. That is what they are here for is to pay claims when something like this happens. They aren’t losing money, but they are going to try to hold onto as much as they can and if something happens they jump straight to suing instead of seeing if it is worth suing even.

I said well I’m not stressing about it I’m just waiting to see what happens. I said it was nothing more than an accident I wasn’t speeding or doing anything wrong, I looked because a car was to close to one side and when I looked up there was car stopped in front of me. I said I was trying to avoid hitting anyone why I swerved off the road but then he turned and I couldn’t avoid it. I said so if they get a judgment then if/or when I can pay them something I will. It is what it is and I can’t give them something I don’t have. He said that’s right. He said just let the lawyer know everything you told me and give him the papers and we will do everything we can to help that’s what you pay us all these years for.

That is the first I have heard from them in months. I heard from the lawyer in a letter right after I got the papers saying I was being sued. Then sometime over the summer I got a letter from them saying they were still taking care of my case that I didn’t need to do anything they would get a hold of me if they needed anything. Yesterday was the first time I have heard from the insurance company in almost a year. I didn’t know they were still really involved or anything like that.

I guess it is a good thing that the places I wanted to rent to start a business rented before I could rent them. If I had started that then they would have had something to go after. I couldn’t have paid them and the business and keep it going. I would have had to close down. I wouldn’t have had a chance to even start really making money with it. I have kind of decided to just work on school forget everything else until I am done. Then find a job for a little while until it is time for us to move. After that then work on the things I want to do and have. I will have my degree to get a job until I decide what I really want to do.

20 Day Count Down Ends

Last month I told you me and father of the year had talked and I was giving him time to get the papers for the divorce done and then get a court date or I was getting a lawyer. You can read it here 20 Day Count Down Begins .

Well he has not bothered to find out what paperwork needs to be filed, much less getting it taken care of and turned in. Not really surprised I knew he wouldn’t. But I couldn’t do anything until I get my money. I get it this Friday and when I do I am going to talk to someone to get it taken care of. I am going to talk to someone Friday and see what they advise me to do to get it taken care of as quick as I can.

We got into it again tonight, I am trying to figure out the boys birthdays coming up in a few weeks. I want to take them to this place he talking about going and all this but he has no money to go. Then if I tell the kids he can’t go then they get mad at me and upset because they don’t understand.

I am trying to decide what to get them for Christmas and start buying and putting away so that I have it done. I was looking at stuff on line and I said something to him about Christmas. He responds with I thought we were getting stuff together. I already knew what he was going to say. Has he said I can give you so much or can we do this how much do you need anything? Nope not a word, he figures I just do it and that will be that his name will be put on it. Then when I said something he starts about well I haven’t had money I don’t have money I am trying to make sure bills get paid. I have to tag my truck and get it moved or I’m going to get in trouble, I thought, you, just on and on like always.

I told him this was my money to pay bills and get everything I need until I find a job and that I’m stretching it the best I can and that I need to be able to pay my bills to and that I am making a point to make sure they have something that he hasn’t helped with the first thing around here yet and that it isn’t right. He just acts like it is no big deal and it isn’t his fault or problem. I just don’t understand how he looks at things this way. How he has no care in the world how it’s not his fault nothing ever, how he just see’s nothing wrong with any of it and that he will help if or when he can and if he can’t or never dose it is not big deal. I should include his name on all the gifts and everything else. I just blows my mine.

Again tonight telling me why dose he need to take care of this and he don’t want the divorce. I said fine then I’m not either I did once and I am not fixing the mess you made so I guess I have to get a lawyer and let him tell me everything I can get and ask for when we go to court. I don’t know if I can figure out and fix the mess. I probably could but it would be a lot. This point I would rather just get a lawyer. He’s all no don’t do that I guess this week when I am off I have to get it taken care of no matter what. This that and everything else has come up. I said it’s like your job if it needs done you make time make sure it gets done no matter what or it will never get done if you don’t. He says he is going to go do it. I am sure next it will be he needs a way over there and all this. To bad I am not his ride I gave him a truck if he can’t tag it and insure it I can’t help it. I have plans he knows I have had plans for weeks and things to take care of he has had a month to do it in. He better find a way. But ride or no ride I am sure he won’t do it anyway.

20 Day Count Down Begins

Father of the year has been at his if I would just give him another chance blah blah again the other night he started texting me out of no where. How things weren’t his fault and how he tried and is trying. Telling me how I changed, I settled, oh and my favourite I threw us away first chance I got.

If I got out the first chance I had or first reason I could find, I would have left when I fought with him for two years to get me and our daughter our own place to live so we weren’t living with someone else. And we had our 2 nd on the way.

He started about me seeing other people after he moved out and I slept with someone else then dated someone. How that didn’t say much about me. Yeah you know what I did have a “friend” for a short time and then I met some one and had a relationship. I don’t see anything wrong with that at all. He knew I was done he had his chance to fix things and keep us together. I went to counselling with him and everything else. There was nothing left. Dose he really think that if I really had feelings for him that in the last 3 years I wouldn’t have given him another chance or at least fucked him once in a while since I’m not seeing anyone else. Hell why not he is still my husband since he stopped the divorce. How many years dose someone have to not have anything at all to do with you before you realise they really don’t have any feelings or anything for you? I mean really, how many people going to be in the situation that we have been for this long and have nothing to do with them if they had feelings for them? Look how much he tries it be to easy to just say ok. Then he says I miss you, I miss being close to you and being intimate with you. I said yeah that’s what you miss the sex. He said no it’s more than that. Couldn’t come up with anything else that didn’t come back to sex. Like I told him only time he wants to talk to me is when he wants sex. Got to where it was the same when we were together, he come home from work not speak to me all night high how are you, how was your day, how are kids, kiss my ass nothing. But then soon as we were both in bed he pawing all over me and pushing me to have sex.

Then he says how I’m just itching to have the party life and that is all that seems to matter to me. I have no clue what he is talking about there. Anyone I know can tell you I have my kids with me 24/7 and even when they go with him once in a while I am sitting at home doing the same stuff I always do. Once in a great while I may go out. If I go out once or twice a year alone even if just to dinner it is a lot. Because I am always home and doing stuff with the kids.

He started how I was cold hearted and put up a wall with the kids. Because I have been getting onto them and trying to get them back on track. They don’t want to do anything they are told. They don’t want to help around the house and things. He complains about it all the time but dose nothing to try and change it.

Then it was how he don’t feel good and how I attack him for not helping. I had said something earlier in the day about him not paying support or helping make sure the kids have what they need.

Then he started ignoring me and telling me he was sleepy and had to get some sleep and drive the truck. Give me his famous we will talk about it later. Because he didn’t want to answer my questions or hear what I had to say. I said yeah later like every other time you say later. No really we will. Well its been a few days and we haven’t talked yet. I brought it up the other day when I seen him I got the I have to work I need to do this and I’m not avoiding it, excuse after excuse. I said it don’t matter, I just wanted to point out that yet again you say later and later hasn’t come like all the other times you say that didn’t happen.

I said well here I am having my say why your here and you can’t say you didn’t get my message, didn’t understand, wasn’t sure what I was talking about or whatever excuse you may come up with. Because I am going to spell it out make it very clear right now and I am not going to bring it up later I just going to sit and wait and do what I decide to do in the end.

I told him that he has until next Wednesday to get the papers form the court house fill them out and turn them back in. Then he has 15 days from there to get in contact with them and have a court date. He is off next Tuesday and Wednesday so he has two days to get there get them and get them back. Then they tell you to wait at least 10 days to call and get a court date.

I told him if he dose not get the papers turned in to start the 10 process by then I will get a lawyer, if he dose and thinks that is all he is going to do and not have to worry about it and it will slid for ever again he is wrong. Because if it goes past 15 days I will start looking for a lawyer.

I told him it isn’t anyone’s fault but his that he screwed up at work and had 2 or 3 accidents that he is paying for, it isn’t anyone’s fault that he lost his position because of them, that it isn’t anyone’s fault he don’t have his license straight, money to put his truck on the road, pay his own bills, or that he isn’t helping make sure that his kids have the things they need. It isn’t anyone’s fault that but his that he has put us in the position of possibly losing our home again, that it isn’t anyone’s fault he hasn’t followed through with what we agreed upon from day one when we were supposed to split the bills work different shifts and let us both save money get jobs so that we wouldn’t have to pay daycare and so that we both could get our own places. He did the things he did and he did them the way he did for whatever reason and now he has to live with that. That it is time to grow up be a man and quit blaming everything on someone else. I also told him it wasn’t anyone’s fault that he stopped the divorce and has not fixed it like he was supposed to. That is when I told him if he didn’t I was getting a lawyer.

I told him that I am having to take loans and go into debt to make it and slide by because he isn’t doing his part. That if I was going to take out loans to do that then I was going to be taking out extra this time to pay a lawyer to get this done and over with once and for all, that he let this drag out until now we been married well over 12 years. That if I have to pay a lawyer to once again clean up his mess he has made and left for someone else to take care of I was going to see to it that I got paid for doing it. I told him I am going to tell the lawyer I want anything and everything me and the kids are entitled to and the judge will give us. I’m not going to play nice and say just help me make sure the kids have what they need and things are paid or help out here and there when we need it, or just pay child support and forget everything else. I did that and look where it has gotten me.

He didn’t say anything he just had this look on his face like he was stunned that I said it and worried, like he knows I really mean it and going to do it if he don’t get it taken care of. He knows right now I can get the money and if he had to pay for a lawyer he wouldn’t be able to so he would be in court on his own. He knows that his family has had changes in their situations and most likely can’t and would’t help him. Right now I have the upper hand and I plan to use it if he decides to ignore it and hope that it goes away.