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{April 1, 2019}   A Long Slow Day

I have had two people come into work today and that is it. I have had two maybe three phone calls. I have made my calls and lined up the other appointment’s we needed for tomorrow. All that took about 15 minutes or less out of the 5 hours I have been here today.

I have spent most the day on here catching up on reading blogs because boy I was way farther behind than I thought on reading. I have written a few post and have a few more I am working on. Right now I am writing this and holding on the phone for child support enforcement to answer. They keep showing that they are sending papers to Father of the Years employer and of course and he is saying he isn’t working there and they show he isn’t earning wages at all right now. Funny he isn’t how is he paying rent and why is he driving a company truck and wearing their shirts? I knew this is what it would come down to, he already said he would do this no big surprise to me. I just hope that when he walks into court they decide to throw him in jail and let him figure out how to get out of that one. Let mommy and daddy or his not boss come off some money and bail him out. Because whatever they have to pay to get him out comes to me. At this point I don’t care who pays it. They all want to take up for him and hide him, lie for him protect him and don’t care about the kids involved then let them pay it.

I am holding with them mostly to find out what is going on with mine and RC’s case because it don’t show any actions have been taken on it. I mailed them paper work back the other day so something should happen soon. I also want to know if they plan to go after Father of the Year or just straight to RC since our divorce papers show that he isn’t the father. That is why I called but I also want to know what is going to happen in court when we go next month since everyone is lying and saying he isn’t working.

Oh joy they should be answering any minute now, they said my wait time is less than 20 minutes and I have been waiting 17.5 so far. I just hope they are helpful and I get some answers. It is always a hit and miss when talking to them rather you will get someone helpful or not. I don’t have time to go down there and take time off work to ask simple questions that I have. Before they wouldn’t tell you anything they tell you to come in they can’t give out information over the phone. Last time they talked to me and gave me information so maybe I will get lucky again. If they don’t want to give me information I am going to ask for a supervisor and tell them just that, I can’t afford to take off work and come down there to ask a couple simple questions and get information or find out why my case is at a stand still and get you all to get on the ball. Someone needs to give me some information and answer my questions.

I still have to go to my other job tonight when I finally get off here. I have to try to get there a few minutes early and talk to the owner. I am going to ask him if I can take off Thursday night. It is Little Bitty’s birthday and I told her we would go to the fair.

I got into it with the Bitch this morning about it. She asked me if I was getting off early for her birthday. I told her I only plan to go to the one job not both. She said why or something. I said because I promised her I would take her and it is her birthday. She says oh so you don’t plan to stay there either? (only 25 minutes and they have answered) You already something, in other words to lazy to do it or not willing to do it. I said no I don’t I plan to keep it and be there for a while.  Then she starts how they aren’t going to like it that I haven’t been there long and I am taking off to take my kid to the fair and blah blah. I don’t think they are really going to care because they are about family  and they know that I am the only one that is there for my kids and that when it comes down to it there are somethings that they come first and I do or have to do. That is why I took this job because it gives me some space to be able to take off and be there for them. It isn’t often and I let them know ahead of time not the last minute. Right now they have the other guy there to cover me. If it is a problem then I would rather find out now than later. Because if it is a problem then maybe I do need to find another job.

Well I talked to child support and they said to bring the pictures I have of Father of The Year working and all that. They also said they had sent payroll forms to 10 different employers that said he isn’t working for them and that they just sent a new one out the 7th of March. I asked if it was his current employer and he said he can’t tell me that. I am the one that sent them the information and told them where he was working and everything but they can’t tell me if they sent him a form and what he said. Got to love these people. I guess to protect their privacy but as far as I am concerned they have none if they are not paying for their kids and doing what they need to be and the employer is covering for them. They said they have not received the papers I mailed back yet but that they give 7 to 10 business days to get it then however long they take to get it into the computer. He said once they get it the next step is to call everyone in for the DNA test. I asked if they are going to call father of the year in or not he said that he hasn’t been ruled out because of the way the judge did the paperwork. He said that they will have to call everyone to court and show that he isn’t. But that right now they are going after RC so hopefully they won’t have to go after Father of The Year. Because the lady told me if they were going to go after him they would go after him not RC until he was proven not to be. So I am hoping that he is out of it now since they are going after RC and they don’t later try to drag him back into it. But I would say if they are going to call RC for DNA test it will show that he is the father they shouldn’t have to call the other one in at all. It’s just one more thing to deal with. I already have to miss work for court, the dna test and court with him. I don’t need to be missing work to go to court or what over something that I already addressed when I should of and now have to go back and fix the judges mistakes.

Well the good news is between being back on here and dealing with child support it is now 4pm and I only have about 50 minutes before I can leave and head to my other job.



{October 7, 2018}   So Much Happening

Hey guy’s I have so much to catch you up on but I am also, so tired I can’t hold my eyes open. I have managed to get 7 or 8 post set up. I went and titled them all so that hopefully I will remember what all I want to tell you all and what you need some catching up on.

Hope to be around and get some done tomorrow. Until then Goodnight.

I fell asleep before I could hit post wouldn’t you know. I just pulled in at work so time to get busy for a few hours. I only have 4 or 5 that I can work today so not a long day. After that I should have some time to catch up a little bit. Happy Sunday all.



{January 12, 2017}   Much Easier to Care For

When I dropped the little kids off at school today my Big Guys teacher and one of the kids in his class parents was talking about my hair and how much they liked it. Then when we got outside going back to my truck the other kids mom stopped me and was talking about it. She was saying how good it looked and how nice it looked on me. Then she said it is so much easier to take care of to you are going to love it.

When I sent the picture to my good friend he said the same thing it will be a lot easier to take care of now.

When I picked the big kids up the teachers and everyone were talking about it and how good it looked and how they liked it. They started talking about how easy it will be to take care of.

When I took the kids to therapy the lady at the shop down stairs stopped me and was telling me how good it looked and how it would be so easy to take care of now that it is shorter.

I started wondering did everyone think I spent a ton of time on my hair and styled it every day when it was long? Did it really look like I spent time on it and styled it? Or are they saying I didn’t spend enough time on it and didn’t style it and it was a hot mess all the time? I really think it was the first that maybe they think I took time to do it every morning because they say it will take you less time and will be like I would get a break now.

What do you think?

I think it is rather funny because I never styled my hair ever when it was long. I washed towel dried and sometimes got to brush it and went. I never put any spray, moose, gel or anything like that in it. I never thought it looked all that great but didn’t think it looked bad either. It was just hair and it was just there. I wasn’t trying to really do anything with it but grow it out. Kind of defeated my purpose yesterday when I cut it all off.



{December 26, 2016}   Merry Christmas 2016

I didn’t get in until let last night and was ready to go to bed before I ever got home so I didn’t make it on. I did try to get on from my phone and passed out.

I hope everyone had a good day and had a nice time with friends and family. Yesterday was the first Christmas me and the kids had that it was just us here at the house. I was surprised Father of the Year didn’t try to come over or show up really. But it was a nice morning. I didn’t get to go to sleep until about 6. Then I laid down on the love seat and went to sleep so that I would be out here when they came out and so that Little Bitty didn’t get up and start opening stuff without everyone else. My oldest got up first and sat here for a little bit waiting for the rest to get up. When they didn’t get up in a little bit she went back to bed. I thought she went to get them up and I fell back to sleep waiting on them. Then I heard Big boy get up and in a little bit Little Guy got up. I finally sent him to get the girls up.

They opened their stockings that was stuffed with their gifts from each other then they took turns picking gifts from under the tree and opening them. It was so much fun watching them open their stuff and watching them watch each other. They had as much fun watching each other open their stuff as opening their own I think.

I was disappointed because the big gift for my oldest or for them all never made it to my house and still hasn’t as of right now 310 the day after Christmas. The guy who helped my friend get it and swore it was no big deal he would be back Christmas eve to bring it over and help set it up never showed and didn’t answer calls or text all night. I can’t get it in my truck and have no one else to go get it. I still don’t know what happen he finally got a hold of my friend yesterday and still said he couldn’t do it until today. But now here we sit and no one has heard from him today yet. I feel bad because oldest was kind of disappointed because she got mostly colored pencils and art stuff. She asked for art stuff but I guess I miss understood what she was wanting so it wasn’t even really the right stuff. She didn’t get anything else she asked for. I have the basketball here but didn’t give it to her when the hoop never showed up. I didn’t want to tell her I still want to surprise her with it. I wanted to try and get it here yesterday when she went with her dad so I could give it to her when I got back and that didn’t happen. I guess one day it will get here hopefully before next year or I am moving. I don’t know anyone with a truck and don’t have money or a truck to get a trailer to get it right now.

They went with their dad about noon to see his parents and grandma and I got to get a little bit of sleep before I had to meet them back at my sisters to have dinner and things with them. I have to say over all the night went a lot better than I expected it to go with my mom and things.

The kids enjoyed their dad and time spent with family. We got home about 10 I think and the girls both went right to their beds and passed out. I had to make the boys go to bed at about 230 or 3 this morning. I had no idea it was so late dealing with stuff from earlier in the day and things. I thought it was about 10 and it was 1 then by the time I got done talking with the boys and doing things it was after 2. Then they kept wanting to stay up longer and things. Big boy has a been full of army men, couple tanks and a tent and My Little Guy got a been of 100 piece set of army men and a bunch of stuff to go with it. They had it set up all over in the living room floor. They cleaned up had all the little stuff in the bin with no lid. I dumped it all out and showed them how to pack it with the big stuff in the bin that closes and then just have 4 big things left in the little bin with no lid so if it spilled.

After putting them to bed I came to bed and passed out myself. It was a good day for the kids not so great day for me but at least the kids had a good time.



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