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when I headed to work on Wednesday my truck seem to run a little sluggish. I thought things just needed to even out maybe get air pushed out or what. Then I went to get on 95 it seem to run better. Thursday I had a few issues and chalked it up to a coil pack. But something just didn’t seem right.

Friday rolls around I jump in fire it up start to put my seatbelt on and it spits and dies. I start it and it just sputtered. I backed out it just didn’t want to go. I get going it seem to do a little better. I stop at the light and when it was time to go it did me like it did Monday night. It wouldn’t go. I started to get over all of a sudden it just took off and went.

I got to JW’s house 3 minutes away it sat in the yard ran great. I messaged the one guy and told him something was really wrong this wasn’t right. He called me right away and we talked about it. He said let him call his brother talk to him they come to me figure it out. I told him I thought I could get it to him since it would be easier. He said he would call me back in a few.

He called me and said if I could get it to them that would be great they would meet me there and take care of it. They thought it was the fuel filter. They could get it taken care of pretty fast. Great no problem. I ask JW if he wanted to ride with me it wouldn’t take long. I didn’t want to be alone if I broke down and may need to get it out of the road or something. He said yes of course.

My thought was get it to 95 get it on there and once I got up to speed it would run halfway decent. Then I would have to baby it through town and hopefully get it there. Because it seemed once I got up to 40+ it wasn’t bad like I said.

Boy was my thinking wrong. Very very wrong. I got out there and it just didn’t want to go. Few times it got up to a decent speed and then it would just drop. I ended up pulling over I don’t know how many times. Was driving down the side of the road way to far. But I had to get it there and off 95 before it just wouldn’t go at all like Monday.

I finally get there they get there and they pull the fuel filter out and it was nasty. So me and the one ran up and got a new one. Go back put it in and start it. It still didn’t sound 100% but pretty normal. I figured because one of the coil packs or all need replaced.

They said take it out run it see how it done. The one went up to let us out of the gate. I turned out to go up the street and nothing hardly move sounded horrible. I turned around pulled right back in. The one who let us out was in disbelief. We took it back into the shop. The younger one that has the same truck kept saying he thought the pump was bad. The older one was saying it needed bled some more there was still air in the line. That is what I couldn’t decide was if it just wasn’t getting fuel or if it was sucking air. The younger one said he could hear it all the way back in the shop when I tried to test drive it and it was the pump.

I asked where this one dinner was compared to where we were. If it was close enough to walk to? The older one said he was going to his dad’s to get a tester he would drop us off. So he did he said as soon as we were done call him he would come pick us up.

I had not had a drink yet and hadn’t had my coffee. JW hadn’t either. I was going to pick him up then we go get our coffee. Until the trucked started messing up. I told him we would stop on the way to the shop but when it was so bad I wasn’t stopping no where. As long as it was rolling and going I wasn’t stopping. I was going to get something when we went to get the filter and there cooler was broke. He was getting hungry not feeling good. I was so thirsty and just wanted to sit down for a bit. I felt like I was pushing them to hurry up and figure it out and I wasn’t. I figured give them some time to check it over.

We got lunch and talked for a bit. We left JW wanted to go to the little store. I thought there was one on the corner across from us but it was something else now. I said there is one back the way we came not to far I think. We started walking. It was a lot further than I thought. But I was going to walk back to the shop and we had to pass it to get there. We were about to the store when the older one called.

He said it was the fuel pump they sold us a bad one. He ask if I had the paperwork from where we bought it. I told him where it should be and reminded him we bought it on his dad’s shop account so they should have a record of it. We talked he said everyone was giving him a hard time about taking it back and no one had it in stock. It isn’t something most places have in stock so that was another issue. I couldn’t go to another store because the first one would only trade not refund because of the type of part. He said he found one but it was about 15\20 miles away and the women wasn’t giving him a hard time she was going to just trade it. So they were leaving to get it. Later the younger one said they ask if the gas gage was working and it wasn’t. He told them no it didn’t once they put new one in. They said by that they knew it was a bad pump.

When we were talking he said we needed to find a ride home or somewhere to go because it was going to take them awhile to go get it and get it in and everything done. He said he would bring it to me when they got it done. I had no idea how we were going to get home. He called the guy he works with ask him if I gave him gas money if he could pick us up. Surprisingly he was down where we were at families house. He said he would call us when they were done and pick us up. We were not near any stores of any kind and had past the turn off for the shop so we just kept walking. We could not get in at the shop because the guys were not there it is a gated area. It would be a while before they got back. So we just walked. I kept telling JW at intersections we needed to go east or west to get back to an area where there would be stores and maybe a fast food place or somewhere to get a drink sit and wait. He say we may as well keep going the way we are. It didn’t matter to me much, but I was a little tired of just seeing woods and houses. We finally came up on this one area I said I think the big park is up here. By then he needed to use the bathroom and we still were just around houses. I mapped it in my phone it said it was a mile to the west. He wasn’t sure. I said if we keep going a mile the direction we are or we go a mile this way we are still going the same distance if he don’t call and pick us up first. If we get there you can use the bathroom and we can just sit in one spot and wait. Because at this point we didn’t know if we were walking toward the ones picking us up or away. I just felt we needed to just sit and wait. He said yeah true so we headed to the park.

We finally got there I went to the pavilion and sat down he went to the bathroom. He came out we were talking. And his friend called him said he was on his way asked where we were. He told him he said meet him out front. So we did it is a huge park a bunch of pavilions, camp site’s, rv sites and other stuff. But we were by the front so we walked up to the road. He was there in just a few minutes.

We had walked 3 miles by the time we got to the park. It had only taken us an hour with the stop at the store. We could of gotten further but JW is a extremely slow walker. I would be walking along and relies he was way back behind me. I stop and wait on him to catch up. But in a bit he would be behind again. I try to slow down not leave him. I wasn’t like in a hurry walking fast. I just naturally walk fast. I would wait for him to catch up then hold his hand for a bit to so I didn’t leave him everything else.

They dropped us off at his house. I hung out with him it was about 5 something I think when we got dropped off. I they should be there in an hour or two. I couldn’t find a ride now it is 7 or after. JW said he would give me money for a cab to go home they could bring my truck to my house. I said as soon as I get a ride or call a cab they will call. They should of been done. Something was wrong.

I finally called a cab to go home because it was 7 something. And then he calls and said it was ready his brother (younger) one was bringing it if I could give him a ride home. I told him yes. I was talking to him asked JW to cancel the cab. But he pulled up about that time. I ran out told him so sorry my truck was done I was just calling to cancel. He was nice about it didn’t get mad. I gave him $5 for coming. The ride its self would of probably only been about $8 if that most likely less. Then he would of only got a small amount of that so I thought $5 was fair for him coming out there. No one knew he got it he got to keep it all.

In a little bit he called about my truck again. He said you been through so much with this truck I am just going to follow him to you and take him home. We talked about pay and things. He said $150 should cover what he had into parts and time.

They got there he said everything is brand new. Everything to do with the fuel system should last you as long as you have the truck and then some. You shouldn’t have to ever replace anything to do with it. They replaced lines, clamps, anything you can think of. I gave them another $200 they spent their whole day taking care of it getting it going for me. If it had been a shop they probably wouldn’t of even been open til Monday and then who knows when they would of gotten to it. Days later. They would of charged labor again and they would not of replaced anything. If I had them to it would of been more labor and more for parts. They wanted $600 4 years ago and $200 was the part. I am sure price has went up for labor. They put a mark up on the parts as well. These guess gave them to me for their discounted price they get through their dads shop and charged me very little for doing the job over and the extra work replacing everything else. So for just about $300 maybe a little more they did the first job twice and replaced everything else. That saved me so much money even giving them the extra $50 last night.

They said they would let me know as soon as they can replace the motor mounts to look for them and get them. They are going to try and do it on a Saturday while I work. I may just rent a car for that so they don’t have to rush. My motor is sitting on my oil pan and cracked it.

Sleeping Beauty is going to try to find decent ones at the junk yard. They are dealer parts and $500. I don’t have that and labor to pay right now and it needs done asap.

I could not believe they sold me a bad pump. The younger one told me same happen to him he had to do his twice too. We went to two different stores and it has been awhile since he did his. But a few people with shops have told me they are getting a lot of bad parts lately. I wonder if it is because of covid and so many places closing having less employees or maybe even employees out sick over this. They get bad stuff but not like they did this last year.

I am just so glad they got it done and thankful they did what they did.



{August 27, 2019}   Bail Money

I may have to start a gofundme page to get bail money. Because I can not be responsible for what I do to this man over my truck. I am tired of waiting and playing games. This could of been fixed in a week and the 6th will be two months I bought the truck and have not been able to us it at all. A few hours the first night that is it.

I can not walk away from $4000 or walk away with a truck that I can not drive that has issues and needs work. I bought a truck that ran great and looked good. Looked as of it had been well kept and would last me and the kids a while. Past the 3 to 5 years I normally keep one.

Now this and he is just fucking around because I’m a women and he thinks it is funny and he don’t want to do anything for me. Everyone keeps saying you need a guy to go kick his ass, you need a guy to handle it. But none of them want to step up and help me out. Even the couple I have asked to call and deal with him or go talk to him with me have an excuse.

He was sent a list of parts again over the weekend because he says I never sent him one. Not that I should be sending him one anyway he should be getting it. But since he says he don’t know, can’t blah blah I sent it. He was supposed to get back to me. Here we are almost 9:30 at night and he still has not contacted me back. He said 3 different people looked at my truck so one of them could give him a price for what I am asking for in just a minute. (I am sure they have why he don’t want to go that route) my guy told me in a mater of minutes.

Today I sent him this……….

Have you figured out the cost of parts. I my truck or money back this has went on for to long just trying to get a price and list of parts. The work could of been done many times over. I can not keep waiting and doing without. My truck.

I sent this this morning and ofcurse ignored. I need to go over there but I I just don’t know what to do or what it is going to accomplish other than maybe going to jail. Because if he is in my face and gets cocky or nasty like he has on the phone, I might knock the he’ll out of him. Once I start I may not stop.

I can’t go until Saturday maybe I should start my fundme page now. Give it time to build up enough money to get me out if something happens.



{August 5, 2019}   Traded My Truck

I finally traded my truck today. I stopped and talked to good friend and ask him if I just gave him my truck how much more would I need to give him to fix my other truck? He said it be a lot to do that job. I would be better off to do the motor if he was going to do it.

He said with the set up of not paying labor and half of parts then I am better off doing the heads because I would have basically a new motor not just a used motor in who knows what kind of shape.

But if I was going to have to pay for it all out of pocket I am better off letting him replace the motor. He said he could find me a good motor with right about the same miles that are on it now. It would save me a lot of money.

It makes since because the motor would be 16 hours of labor the head job is 28.

After I left he called and said if I wanted to give him my truck he would put me on the books for $800 worth of labor credit. I can use that on anything that I want. My new truck or getting the black car fixed or if I get another one and need something. Or need something later for one of these if this guy comes through.

I told him okay because if not I am only going to get $350 to $500. It has $500 worth of tires on it. That is my biggest problem when something happens is paying labor. So now all I have to do is get the parts and get it fixed. It’s 20 hours of labor at his charge but that’s alright. Most things only take an hour or two. He mostly only charges me the hours he works. So if book says 5 hours and it takes 2 he only charges 2 unlike other shops. Or he does for other people.

I really don’t care I just wanted to be done dealing with it and looking at it and it sitting there at my job. I better do something before something else happens at work and it is involved.

If I had to put a motor in the other truck it would cover that. I have to come up with $800 to $1000 for a motor.

I think they are about to take father of the year back to court and he is $1472 behind. If it ends up coming to me having to pay for it get it done I will take that and get a motor with it.



{July 23, 2019}   RE:Ripped Off

I told you about buying a new truck, well new to me truck a couple weeks ago and that I am hoping that I haven’t gotten Ripped Off. But it is seaming like it more and more everyday. I sent it back on a tow truck Saturday and never heard from them to even say they got it. I messaged them finally yesterday after noon because I now want as much as I can in writing. I told him I was checking to see what they had found out about the truck. I never heard anything back until this morning from him. Saying he was out of town his mechanic told him it came in on a tow truck Saturday and he was going to go through it today and see what it needed he would let me know.

I didn’t say anything, I am going to wait and if I don’t hear from him about 3 or 4 this evening I am going to call him. If he answers I am going to see what he has to say and what all he tells me it needs.

Then I am going to say I also need some other information from you, my lawyer would like the name of your bonding company and we will need pictures of the heads and things so that we can see that they have been checked and if it needs a head job. When he starts about lawyer and things. I am going to say yes because this is almost two weeks, I have not had use of my truck or help getting it fixed and the use of my truck. All I hear is that your out of town all the time or some other excuse. It has been fixed up, doctored up or whatever you want to call it when I bought it. I am not getting it back that way. It is going to be fixed right and all everything it needs done taken care of. You gave me a warranty and with that also comes implied warrants. One being that it will be in usable condition free of major flaws. So it would be in your best interest to fix it fix it right and everything that is wrong if you do not want to hear from my lawyer. Then just go from there.



So today I was messaging with BFF and sje asked if I had my truck fixed. I told her no. She said……. Sleeping Beauty said he can fix it but when u get money he wants paid for it and how much u going to pay him?

I never even replied. I should tell her I will pay him $200 then when it is brought up later tell him I will give it to him as soon as he gives me the $200 he owes me.

Or message her back amd tell her tell him $200 and we will call it even for what he owes me.

The nerve he has he makes the same as me at one job and a $1 less than me when he does the other. Pays no one nothing and has nothing to show for it, lives for free and knows he owes me money and the jam I am in right now and say that. I am sure he will say something about it to me I am going to tell him just that, what about the money you owe me? I don’t live for free or off people and take advantage of people.

If I had all the money that Father of the year owes me, Sleeping Beauty and others owe me I be fine not have to worry about anything for a while. Then they all walk around like they do why I struggle. Want talk about what you going to pay me? I like to pay them something alright the two of them for sure.

My boss at the knife place said he was trying to get a friend to come take care of my truck this weekend. I sure hope they do. I have not heard from them at all today and now it is storming. He said today then this weekend. I am so stressed because if I don’t get it done by tomorrow I am sunk. I don’t know who to ask. I could just cry right now.



{July 23, 2018}   Thankful For Friends

I finally got to my friends house a little after 9 yesterday morning. I had no problems getting it there it has held water for days now again. I don’t understand, I know the pump only leaks under pressure so guess that would explain some.

I explained they had toborder the one part and I had no way to pick it up so I needed to go get it. He got his little girl up we went and picked the part up. We stopped on the way back to get gas. She ask for a muffin he told her yes. We all got out went in the store. They had the tea I like in the bottle I like instead of a can. I grabbed one for work and a drink. I asked her if she wanted a drink and told her to go get it. He looked funny said you getting that? I laughed and said of course. He said I wouldn’t care but I only have a few dollars until payday I had pay bills and get stuff for the truck. I said I wouldn’t tell her to get something if I wasn’t going to pay. I ask if he wanted something he said no. We went to pay I paid for it all. It wasn’t that much few dollars.

We got home he said lets see if we can get this started or broke down see what I am getting into. First thing the tools he had were to small for the bolts. I had told him we could get the tools if he wanted. He said he could do it a different way. I told his how ever he wanted to do it it didn’t matter whatever would be the easiest fastest way for him was all I was looking at. When the tool didn’t work, I said lets go to the part store here by your house see if we can get what you need or just rent the tool from them. He said okay. We just rented the tool that it called for and was done.

Me and his little girl was sitting in the truck why he was doing something McDonald’s was right there. I said you want a cheese burger? She said I like nuggets and fries. I said okay. But it was just hit lunch time and they were packed so I didn’t ask him to stop. I did tell him by that point it was so late he had everything he needed he could drop me off at work instead of coming back out in just a few minutes. He said that would be good. We got close to work I ask him stop fast I could grab a sandwich. I ask if he wanted anything he said no. I ordered my food it took them 20 minutes to get me our food. I went ahead got him a burger and fries since I got her something.

He dropped me at work soon as he was out of sight i noticed i had my key for the truck. I had call tell him come back. Then when he picked me up I had to turn and go back because I forgot to send the phones. I was like I messed up I am so sorry. He like its alright don’t worry about it. I just felt so bad everything happen the way it did. But its all good. We went back to his place and talked a while. And things and I went home. It is so nice to have my truck back today. I went and filled it up with gas and went to take care of somethings I needed to take care of. Now it is home to make dinner.



{July 22, 2018}   Up and Going Already

I am so pissed off with my mother right now. But that really is nothing new. I didn’t get home umtil after 12 am and didn’t get to sleep until after 230. 2 hours earlier than normal I was so tired I could not hold my eyes open. She wakes me up at 430. Then I ask oldest to set her alarm for 8 make sure I woke up because I will sleep through mine when I get like this and can’t sleep then work and wore out on top of it. She comes in there at 730 and says granny said its 730!!! I been awake since. I finally got up about 810 got ready and am now at the store.

I need to leave my house as soon as I get home and let the girls out. So that I can head to my friends house to drop the truck off, pick up the part and tools and get myself to work by 12.

I am so tired, I am sitting here in the truck with Little Bitty trying to keep myself busy and awake. Waiting for oldest to come out of the store. I wanted to leave in 20 minutes but not sure that is going to happen now or not.

I am worried because it calls for a couple special tools to take the water pump on and off. I asked ymy friend if he had them he said if it was same motor as his there should be no problems. This wasn’t his first go around. I know there are other ways to do things I just worry because I need my truck back today and nothing can get broke or not done right and it go down again. I know he isn’t going to do anything to screw me or cut corners and will make sure the job is done right. Unlike boss at the shop where you never know what he is really doing or what. And who don’t care but plays like he does. But I am that way I just worry if there is something there to worry about. If Sleeping Baeuty had never told me there were special tools and to look the list up I wouldn’t of thought twice about it. Now I am over thinking it. I am tired and crabby and stressed and that don’t help because it just makes me think about it more.

Guess I better go oldest just called she is checking out. She will be out in a minute. I may get to leave the house on time.

I am also worried about my friend and what he is thinking in doing this work for me for free. Is he doing it just to be nice and because I have helped him out over the years? Is he doing it because he wants to get together and thinks this will make me want to more? How’s he going to take it if I don’t want to? Is he going to feel I just lead him on to get the truck done? But I don’t think he could think that. We haven’t talked about that since the other week. I guess we will see. Oldest just go in got to get a move on.



I called and checked on the radiator about 10:15 to see if they had an idea what time it would be here. They said they would have it at 1030.

I hung up and messaged Sleeping Beauty and told him. He said he was going to finish what he was doing and take a show. I told him I was putting clothes in the drier and going to get one too. We talked all night last night until after 4am. So we were both dragging ass I am sure. I messaged him said good morning first he said, it’s a morning lol. I switched clothes around and finally got a shower. I was drying my hair thought it was odd I hadn’t heard from him. It been over an hour because I was so tired I waited until I figured he would be saying he was leaving soon or on his way. But he is about 35 minutes away I knew I have time.

At about 2 hours in he messaged and said I’m not going to make it. I asked why he said some things. I was trying to get out of him why what happen. But he never said. He was really upset telling me he was sorry and things. I am figuring they must of gotten in a fight or something.

We talked some more. He said no one cares he is always alone at home and at work everywhere. How its been this way all his life people say they love him lie. I told him just weed the real friends and family out. You may only end up with a few in the end but thats okay.

He finally said none do, to tell you the truth your the only one.

I told him how I was thinking about moving and really trying to do it really soon. He said go, go get a better life.

We were talking about saving money and jobs all that. He said I would of rent that room from you. I knew when he said his friend wanted it for that girl still he was the one that really wanted it.

Something was said about parts and tools he said he was sorry again. I said it’s not your fault. I should be able to take care of things.

He said all you woman want to be independent but you can’t you always need a man.

I said, really? He said what I’m rite. I said yes and no.

Some didn’t have a choice but to be. It is good to be in some ways. I don’t have to be or want to be in everyway. Trust me i love to have someone to help and to just be with. But it isn’t worth being miserable to have.

I just want to find someone who wants to pick up build from where we are help eachother out. Make sure everthing is taken care of and all needs are met. All the kids are taken care of and have what they need and then work on having the things we want. Work together to make it all happen and live life and be happy.

I have not heard anything from him since. I was called in to work early so its a good thing we didn’t do it or it would of been a huge mess. I was busy all day/night until I got home at 12 something this morning. Its after 230am and I have to be up by 8 shop and out the door by 930 to drop my truck and go to work by 12.

But I messaged him because I forgot, Friday night when we were talking, he said his teeth were hurting. I told him I had some meds he could take to get rid of infections I would give him today. I text and told him I would meet him at work Monday if he still needs them. He did not replied, I figure he not doing good still. I want to meet him talk to him Monday. I may see if he wants to meet for lunch or tell him I will give him a ride home.



{July 21, 2018}   I Bit The Bullet And

Bought the parts for my truck. My bank account is over drew by almost $400. I can not believe it. I should of paid on that but I didn’t. I paid the water so it would not go off on Monday and had enough to make my $50 payment and still have money left for parts. So I went and got them. I have to pick one up tomorrow they had to get it from the store about 40 miles south of us. Said they should have it around noon.

My tax money says it will be here Monday. I hope it is or I am in trouble. It is the only reason I went ahead and got the parts. So I could find someone to put them on not wait another week.

I messaged my “friend” and ask him if I got them if he could put them on Saturday? Hhe said probably Sunday. I said okay and ask if he mind helping me get to and from work this weekend. He said yes if he was able to get tires before I had to be there tomorrow. The ones he has on it are bad he is scared to drive it. The ones he was going to put on there there was a problem with.

I told Sleeping Beaut I was able to get parts. This evening he messaged and ask who was putting them in for me? Told him I wasn’t sure was trying to find someone. He said he would do it for me if I wanted him to. Ask when I was going to do it. I told him I would like to before work tomorrow. He said okay. If he can and will I am going to let him, because I am not sure if my friend is going to get his stuff done and get to it this weekend and I forgot he has is daughter on the weekend. I don’t want him miss time with her working on my truck and not when he just got his going. They are going to want to go have fun I am sure. It will give me a chance to see the other talk some.

I forgot, I was talking to the guy at the store about my truck and selling it. I told him how I listed it as needing work but if you can do it yourself its a good truck and things. I said i got people offering me $1500, an explorer and crap for it. He said what no way. I said yeah. He said they would fix it get $6000 out of it easy. I said I know they act like I am stupid don’t know about the work that needs done or the cost of parts or what the truck is worth. I said but I do. He said no girl that is some low low ball offers even needing work. I said I would scrap it before I give it to someone for that kind of money. I know better. He said I don’t blame you one bit. He said you have all them parts and new tires you got a new truck keep it forget them. I said I know. Probably what I will do.



To having my truck back on the road. I really need it done Saturday but don’t have the money. Then I checked tonight and my tax money says It will be here Monday. Figures the start of the week when everyone is busy.

I have most of my check from last week still and will get another tomorrow. I want to just buy the parts and get them in this weekend and pay everything Monday. But my water will go off Monday if the money don’t come. So I can’t do that. I am over done at the bank by almost $400 as well. I just have a mess and getting very little money back.

I am going to get my check when it comes and see how much I have all together and try to work it out from there. I may just ask the owner to borrow it if I can’t make it happen. Just tell him they say Monday but it could be as late as the 28th. But I really need to get on the road. I can show him right on my phone it says it. I just have to wait and see.

I think I will list it for sale and see what I can get for it. If a decent amount then I will sell. If not then I will wait.



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