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{June 2, 2014}   The End Has Come

To the Stars Of Tomorrow program the kids have been in at our locale playhouse. They did 4 shows this weekend og the Jungle Book. I went to opening night it was great. The baby sat still and watched it with no problems at all. For a 14 month old to sit still for and hour and a half with out fussing or running around. She clap a squiel watching it. My baby boy he just loved it. He begged to go back to see the other 3 shows.

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ways I’m glad it’s over but in otheres I’m not. I won’t miss the 4 hours every night during tech week or the rushing to get there in time for each show. And back and forth in between.

But I will miss the kids excitment about getting ready for the play. And waiting for us to come and see it. I will miss getting that evening out with friends each week. But we have already made some summer plans so it will still be fun.

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They aren’t sure if they want to do it again this year or not. If they do I will have one still in this group and one in the next group up. Twice the running and two tech weeks. I told them they are going to have to pick one or two things and thats it. They can’t interfear with each other. They both missed a game and practice this week. But they had to honor their cometment to the one they started first. They can’t just drop one to do the othe.

And one last bow one last goodbye and one last circle up. 

Mine are the second one in from left and the rock in the middle between the two trees.

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{February 8, 2014}   Re: My Disapointed Rock

The other day I posted about the kids being in the Stars Of Tomorrow program at our local playhouse and how my son wanted nothing more than to be a monkey in the Jungle Book. He ended up with the part of a rock of all things  My Disappointed Rock.

Well I think it was Wednesday evening I got a call from the Drama Mamma as they call her wanting a private meeting to talk about my son. I had plans for yesterday so I told them to make it today. Me and the little ones went to meet with her.

She said that when she got to the rocks and called his name he stood up and said he wanted to be a Monkey not no rock and started to cry. I felt so bad for him listening to her talk about it. Then she said everyone got quite and was just looking and didn’t say anything. Then she told me how she had the other person take him out and talk to him and things. She said he came over later told her he was sorry but he just really wanted to be a monkey and he started to get upset again. She said she had never had that happen all her life doing this with kids and that the kids are happy to have a part and be in the play. But she probably hasn’t dealt with special needs kids either doing this. She did say and I didn’t agree with that he didn’t seem to really get into his part in the christmas program and he didn’t seem to be singing and doing the movements and things. I remember watching and thinking he did really good considering he hadn’t done it before with that many people and on a stage with that many people watching and things. He of course messed up a little here or there but all the kids did and I didn’t think he did horrible or worse than any of the kids. I thought they all did good and were on about the same level.

She said she didn’t know about keeping him in because he still didn’t do his lines or sing with them when they started rehursing their parts. He just wasn’t into it. She said she didn’t want to push him and keep him in she was afraid it would be bad for his self-esteem and things and do more harm than good for him. She said she was willing to give him a couple of weeks and see if he came around and how he did. She also didn’t want him being so upset and in such a bad mood about being a rock to effect the other kids and I understand that. I told her I wanted to talk to him and see where he was on it all and see about sending him the next couple weeks and see how it worked.

I don’t want him to quit just because he didn’t get what he wanted but at the same time I don’t want him to stay and make everyone else feel awkward or unhappy because he is. If he really don’t want to do it then I will take him out. She said he could come back in a year or so when he gets a little bigger and understands it better if he wanted.

I talk to him tonight and he was still upset about being a rock. But then when I told him they were going to ask him to leave or I was going to take him out if he didn’t straighten up and do right he looked scared. He said he didn’t want to get kicked out and not be able to go. He would be a rock and do his part. He said besides rocks get to stay on stage for all the play. So we shall see how it goes. She also explained to me why he didn’t get the part of the money. I explained to him why he didn’t get it. He said it was stupid and all this. They have to dace and things. I told him he could leave stars and do dance so that if he wanted to get back in it later he would have dance and could maybe get other parts that must dance. He said no at first then he said yes. Then later when we talked about it he said he wants to stay in stars.



{February 4, 2014}   My Disappointed Rock

The older two kids have been in the Stars program at our local playhouse since November. They learned about the program the be gaining of last year couldn’t try out until the end of October. My second oldest my son with Autism is the one who really wanted to try out because they told him they were doing Jungle Book this summer. He told the lady right a way he wanted to be a monkey. When he tried out and got in all he has talked about is wanting to be a monkey. The last 4 weeks they have been waiting and waiting to get their part. Tonight was the big night they finally got them. He came out pretty upset and unhappy along with my friends daughter and they both said they got the part of a rock. My oldest she got the part of a  Vulture. He wanted to go back in and talk to them he wanted to trade parts and everything else. The girls said he had a melt down as soon as they told him and they sent him out to talk to someone. That didn’t matter he just don’t care. I know he can’t just get the part he wants and I understand that they give them to the kids that deserve to have that part and that is all fair. I just wish there was a way to make him understand that it isn’t they don’t like him or they want to be mean or they don’t think he can do it so they gave it to someone else. I want him to understand that this is just how it is and that maybe next time and that if he has these melt downs it is going to make it harder to get parts because they are going to think he can’t handle them. He just don’t get that. He really can do a lot and handle a lot it’s just that he don’t understand that you aren’t just doing stuff to be mean or just because you don’t want to give it to him. Sad to say I am afraid this is something he is going to deal with all his life. I think that even if he wants to or dose understand he can’t help but feel that way. I know he knows he is different and his sister and dad and other family haven’t helped to make him not feel that way the way they do treat him. Leaving him out picking on him calling him names and controlling him don’t help when it comes to dealing with things like this. He thinks it is just them treating him like he gets treated everywhere else and he just wants to be treated like everyone else.

I do think that a rock wasn’t a good pick for him. He has a hard time sitting/standing still for even short amounts of time much less to have to stay on stage for all of the play. I am afraid he is going to be moving and wiggling around in the background why they are doing the play. I just hope that if there is any problem they see it and change things around before the show. Even if they give him some other part or something. Its cute because they are going to do a special showing for kids with disabilities when they start their shows over the summer. So if he moves around to much then the kids will just feel he fits in with them 🙂



{October 5, 2013}   Stars Of Tomorrow Program

Monday I took the kids to try out at our local playhouse for their Stars Of Tomorrow Program. My friend who lives by me sent her husband with one of her kids to try out and my other friend brought her daughter. The kids all did pretty good but there were a lot of girls trying out and we had 3 girls and 1 boy trying out. I figured my son would get in because he did as good as the other kids and there weren’t a lot of boys trying out. I think almost 100 girls did. It was fun watching them all get up there and sing. They did happy birthday since we all forgot until last weekend they were even supposed to go.

We got there early they said come 30 minutes early we were about 45 or more. I was happy we were 2nd 3rd and 4th in line. I thought great we will get in get signed up and get their tryouts over with right of the bat. so we get in there singh all their stuff and get a number they number the boys and the girls. Instead of doing them all together. So it was like F1 F2 M1 M2 and so down the line. Still not bad because we were the first few F’s and he was the 2n’t M. Still in and out in a hour or so. Nope when they started calling them up they had mixed them up. They had the 80’s going with the 1’s and 3’s and everything else. So we were in the first second and 3rd round to go on stage.

My big boy was the 2nd one out of every one to have to sing. He got up there and he looked at the lady and said what do you all do if you get nervous it was so cute. I couldn’t tell what she said to him but then he went on and song he did really good. All the kids done pretty good. There were some who never even got on stage when they called them only one who cried and left and some that when they got up there you could not hear a word they were saying and then they just stopped and stood there looking around. then there were some who were really good and you could tell probably done this before. Then there was the rest like our kids who just got up there and gave it all they had and they weren’t horrible they weren’t over the top but they were good. It would have been really hard to decide who got in and who didn’t after you take out the first two groups. the ones who cried stopped didn’t show or couldn’t hear. Then the group that was over the top and just really good. Other than that I couldn’t have picked who to keep and who not to.

They told us that we would get a call by 5 pm Friday saying if they got in or not and not to call before that but if we didn’t hear from them to call. That way if they couldn’t read a number or something they didn’t get left out. I got a call about 330 but I was in line cashing a check or getting kids in the car at that time I didn’t answer. then I got one about 415. I was paying a bill so I let it go to voicemail and about the time I sent it I noticed it was the same number who called earlier. I went to get ex from dropping the work truck off and forgot about the calls. Then I thought of it sitting there waiting for him and listen to the message to see where it was from and it was the playhouse. Both kids got in. We  go for our first meeting this coming Wednesday. I called my friend around the corner from me and they hadn’t gotten the call i called my other friend and she said she got it about 20 minutes before that. The others tried calling after 5 like they said they told them they were behind and they may not find out until the weekend. But then later they called and said she got in too.

The kids are so excited I asked them if they wanted to call their grandparents or anything and tell them and they said no. They want to wait until tomorrow and tell everyone at the party. I am so excited for them and happy for them. This is nice because they both should go same night and time and I won’t have to run two or three days a week like I use too.



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