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{November 1, 2019}   Happy Halloween

I’m a little late but it has been a crazy busy day. I worked about about 4.5 hours today. I was supposed to work until 3 but got off around 230. I posted I was leaving at 3 today to be with the kids a month ago. The Pops said he could work for me so he came in later today. Then the guys got back about 230 walked in and said bye. I said oh now I’m being thrown out and laughed. They said yeah get out of here. I laughed said okay thanks and left. My work was done I just finished sewing Little Bitty’s costume. I stopped got gas then came straight home and got everyone ready for tonight and picked up pizza for dinner.

We met my sister and her husband and kids went and trick or treated. They all had fun. I was a little bothered by the way people treated the older kids.

Yes my teens went trick or treating with us. We have always gone as a family from the time we started having kids. My sister was young still when I had my oldest we pushed her around in the stroller. Baby wasn’t even a year old no bag. We all just walked together get out do something. Did not expect candy for the baby.

We went the following years together and now that she has two kids we all go. My oldest went to a few houses when we started then started lagging back I tell her go have fun she go then lag back. As it got darker she went to more. I kept asking her what was wrong did someone say something or do something and she said no.

Walking out and back to the car we were talking because Little Bitty said her bag was to heavy and wanted someone to carry it. I looked and was shocked how much she had. My oldest said yeah people were giving the little kids handfuls then would look at her and drop one or two pieces in her bag. I was shocked.

I do not understand why people are so bent out of shape about the teens trick or treating. I say good for them they are not out egging houses, stealing little kids bags, drinking and driving or any number of other things they could be. They aren’t coming late at night, or being rude or mean or running over the little kids. They were being respectful, they were in costumes and most were with family and friends. Enjoying a nice evening out. So do people feel the need to treat them this way?

Trust me I have seen them where they are rude, loud, nasty, run over the little kids to be the first to the candy and everything else. I in that situation wouldn’t give candy either and say something. But they in no way were out of line.

People talk about teens not wanting to be with their family or spend time with them or families not doing things together this is part of the reason why everyone wants to exclude older kids from activities and things or make them feel uncomfortable if they do come. Not just trick or treating but other things the community puts on as well. Then hardly ever have things for the older ones at all and wonder why so many run the streets and are in trouble.

My sister said at least you got some I didn’t even get one peice. Not that we expected to or anything. But I thought and said oh yeah. We didn’t.

See when I was buying my house we would all go trick or treat from the front to the back of the neighborhood. Our aunt lived back there we would walk to her house and back. I bet half the houses we went to gave all the kids a bunch of candy all of them no matter how big or small. We would come home the baby would have a bag of candy. Even telling them no and that’s okay they can’t eat it. They say it’s Halloween they need to join in have fun too. Half of them would then hand the adults some too. Or when talking about the baby not being big enough they would say but mom and dad are and smile. The candy all was dumped in a big bag together when we got home everyone shared. The kids are most of it. We were just taking them to have fun not expecting anything. But it’s the point why are some that way but then you get a whole area that acts like it’s the end of the world if teens come by? I truly don’t understand people’s thinking sometimes.

It reminds me of when I deliver pizza’s. If I go to nicer area’s of town it can be pouring rain you just drove 10 miles (no joke we went pretty far away from shop to deliver) you walk up to a $500,000 home sitting right on the river. They hand you a $1 tip, a handful of change maybe $2 if your lucky.

I turn around drive a mile or two from the shop make my way through the trailer park pull up to the trailer I’m going to give them their pizza and they hand you $5, $8 up to $10 sometimes. Most was $5 to $8 tips in those area’s. Parts of town no one wanted to go they were scared to go to I was the one they sent I would get $4 to $6 and more for a tip.

To night we were in a “nicer” area they have tons of people every year come through there. That is how they do. But then the areas we tricker treat by my house and my sister aren’t the “nicer” area but not the trailer park or areas where people are scared to go. Just your average area and they are pushing candy into everyones hand and upset if they don’t take it.

Makes you really stop and think about what people you want to deal with and from what area when it comes down to it. I wouldn’t mind going by my old house but it didn’t look like many houses were doing anything and we were going to meet up with Bff up that way. Anyway end of my vent rant or whatever you want to call it. Guys if teens come to your door just give them the dam candy. I mean really think about it what is it going to hurt? You helped keep a kid from a party where who knows what could happen. You let a kid spend a fun night with their family and they didn’t feel out of place awkward or bored. How would you feel if it was your kid and someone treated them that way or said something?

Anyway I hope you all had a good night. If you dressed up share a picture in the comments.

I do not normally share pictures but we have mask. Me and my oldest son. He photo bombed me. I am glad he did because I really like the picture. He was a plague doctor. I just collected parts of others as they got tired of wearing them. Little Bitty’s hat kept falling off and she got tired of tripping over and dropping her broom. My niece got hot in her mask on the way back to the car. The head of the broom fell off. I told everyone I crashed my broom that’s why it was gone lol.

 



{May 11, 2017}   Attacked Again

Everything was going good until late last night when I got into a two hours argument with my mother. She was telling me how horrible my house is, how I don’t care about my kids, how I need to get this one shot at least for them, how I need to get rid of their things regardless what they thing, how everyone talks about me, and just on and on. She is mad I won’t move out of my house and move over there.

She started because I didn’t go take her to the store, she said call her when I drop the kids off at school, I had stuff to do I knew she didn’t go to bed until an hour or two before she wanted me to call her I didn’t feel like dealing with her. I figured I would just go take her whenever she finally got up and called me and was ready. I told her I could take her today but the kids got out at 1 and I had to drop her off by 3 to pick the other kids up and be somewhere by 4. She started about she might not be done by that time. All she needed to do was run to the bank cash a check go across the street get her hair cut and go in the store to get food. I would pick her up a few minutes after 9 everything is 10 minutes from her house. Okay may not be done by 12 but at least by 3 she still bitching.

She started about my house then how no one would take her places or help her and everything else she could start about. Then she started about some canned and boxed stuff she gave me the other night when I took her to the store we didn’t get home until after midnight when we got there at 7. She said she had some of it she got it but then didn’t use it check the dates there was two or three bags of food. I told kids leave it I would look at it later the next day. I went put Little Bitty to bed and things and came back through they put it away. They told me the checked the dates they were just trying to help. She started about that and she would just come over here and do it herself today. I said I would take care of it in a little bit I was going to. She kept on about coming here and doing it herself. I said I didn’t need her to I was taking care of it. She started about she knew I wouldn’t I was lying to her, what was the problem with her coming over here I wouldn’t care if my house wasn’t dirty and a mess. I said because like I said I can handle it I don’t need you coming over here to do it I said i would take care of it. Then she just kept on and on. I said look no one wants you over because you don’t come to see the kids or to see us, you come to see what you can find to complain about and bitch about. You come to see what you can try to force someone into doing right that minute because you want it done your way and right that minute. No I don’t if there is something wrong I am going to say something. I said nothing wrong other than it isn’t the way you want it think it should be or said to do it your way is not the right way to do everything or the only way to do it. Well I will just have so and so start bringing me over I am coming over to see my grand kids! she say, mind you grand kids she never wanted. I said see just like that someone won’t pick you up and bring you to their house because they don’t want you there but your going to get someone to bring you like see I am going to show you I will come anyway. I said that isn’t how things are or how you do things, and for that matter you can have whoever you want to bring you because just because you come or so and so brings you don’t mean I have to answer the door and let you in. What I can see my grand kids now she says. I knew what she was trying to say I just ignored her because that isn’t what I said. She started on and on in circles about everything.

I said look my brother has nothing to do with you he comes once a year if your lucky at Christmas. He won’t help you get your truck fixed he won’t help you move if you have to he won’t let you stay with him. My sister who lives in the same condos as you, will not help you, will not come over help you do anything that you ask her no matter how big or small, you hardly ever see her or the kids, and she will not let you live with her because of the way you do and have to have everything your way. I said me the one who is doing everything on their own with 4 kids and going to school, the one who has to make sure everything gets done everyone gets where they need to be and everything else is the only one that offers or tries to help you and all you ever do is attack me, all you ever do is complain about everything, nothing is ever good enough, nothing is ever right, nothing is just what it is, you always have something to say and you always start. I said you know I have somewhere to be I get there to pick you up you are not ready we wait forever on you to get ready, you don’t leave your house until you are late or about to be late for where ever you have to go, then we get there wait and you do what you have to, once we leave there then you inform me that you need to go to three or four different stores you can’t get everything at one or at the store two minutes from your house it isn’t good enough you have to get it at the ones that are fifteen minutes away. you take your time and I do not get to drop you off and leave until it is time for me to be where I have to go or past time and I am rushing around to pick kids up and get there.

Just stop, stop it now you know none of that is true and everything your saying isn’t true. You just need to stop and I’m not the only one that talks about your house or complains about it. I said it’s funny none of these other people have ever said a word to me about anything, if it was so bad and none of them are ever at my house to see what it looks like ever not even once a year are they at my house to see it. I just signed my 4 th lease, I think my sister has been to my house a handful of times and not even out of the truck most of those. My grandma has been here one time, and my mom has been here maybe 4. But they are experts on what my house looks like all the time. Because god forbid I was out of bleach and had not mopped my floor that day, we were washing clothes and cleaning other stuff doing other things, so clean clothes were on the couch, we were stripping beds and washing beds and washing everyone’s dirty clothes, so there was dirty clothes by the laundry room door. I have them bring everything from their beds and all their clothes that need washed and put it out by the door, This way when a load stops someone can walk in put it in to dry and just grab stuff and toss it in the washer without running around getting a load together it is right there. This gets it out of their rooms and out of their way so they can clean and things why they wait for their stuff back.

She then goes on to tell me how Father of the Year bitches about it all the time and how he is going to take the kids blah blah, and how RC said the same thing and how dirty everything always way. I said number one my house is as clean and probably cleaner than it was when father of the year was ever here because he never did anything and messed things up all the time, you can’t say that he don’t because you complain how he messes things up there and never helps. So keep taking his side yet again. Number two of course RC is going to say that when all he ever hears you say is the same shit. It’s easier to say that and split not look like the ass and not have to say why he was really leaving. I said funny when I talk to him and father of the year they both have way different things to say and how they are sorry they lied their asses off to everyone and about the shit that they said to people about me that wasn’t true. Number two if they both feel that things are so horrible and bad here, my kids are not taken care of, i don’t care about them, i don’t treat them good and everything is so bad here then why the hell have they both walked off and left them and not think twice about it? Why has father of the year told me over and over they need to be with me, he don’t want them all the time and things? Why did RC tell me I don’t know how many times he wouldn’t take her he just wanted to be a part of her life and why did he beg me to adopt his kids in case anything ever happen to him, he knew they would be taken care of, just days before everything blew up.

If I felt my kids were with someone who was all that bad like she is saying then I would be at the court house every day doing everything I had to do to make sure they didn’t stay there not off running around with whores and drugging it up. That kind of shoots everything they say out of the water.



{October 21, 2012}   Maybe Leaving

It’s really sad how some people have no life and are so childish that when you don’t tell them something or share something with them they have to go snoop and dig until they can find it. Then push their way in even when they are not wanted. Sad that you can’t have anything private for yourself and the ones that you want to share it with with out having someone pushing their self in and ruining it. Then send a messaging laughing about it just to let you know. So sad to say but i will probably be taking my blog and facebook page down. Not sure yet. Because these were places I could come and say whatever I wanted or write about what I wanted. I didn’t have to worry about people I knew knowing everything. I am not sure yet. I am trying to figure out what I am going to do. Would be nice if there was just a way to block them from both and move on. But since I can’t I will have to think about it and decide where to go from here. So if you don’t see any post from me the next few days you know why.



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