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{September 24, 2019}   Feel Like Stirring The Pot

Not just for my ex and his employer but for a lot of people’s ex’s and their employers too. I may have said this before but not sure as it has been a little bit since I was told. But I have been told that I can sue my ex’s employer since he is paying him under the table and keeping me from getting child support. I didn’t think it would be to easy to do and it would be something else to take time. But it has been in the back of my mind, I have been mauling it over when I think of it. The other night I was laying in bed thinking about it and it seems so easy but hard at the same time. I kept thinking there is something I am missing about this. I decided to go on line and look up about employers and their obligation to withhold and all that.

I found that little golden nugget of information that sparked that ah ha moment. I was trying to decide how to word it to get it to pull up the information I was looking for. After a couple of tries somethings popped up. One caught my eye it said something .gov. I always look at .gov sites over anything else if I can because they are more trusted sites.

It said something about the employer lying on court documents and what could happen if they did. It said if they say a person does not work for them, that does that is lying on court papers and the punishment that could be given for doing this.

It is just one of those little pieces of the puzzle that you don’t think about or that don’t seem like anything until you figure out that it really is and does.

I said to myself this could be in my favor all around here. If I collect pictures, video,text and anything else that I can and file papers to sue him in the court and he gets it. Then I hit him with the fact he has lied on court papers and can also end up being punished for that. Maybe he will think better of it, help father of the year pay what he is behind and start taking it out of his check and sending it in every week. (Wishful thinking I know) If he don’t want to do that then maybe it will scare him enough that he tells him he can’t keep working because he really don’t want to be involved. I don’t care what they do if he starts taking it out or truly fires him. Either way is fine with me. Because he will have to go somewhere and get a job and then he will be on the books and they can start getting something from him. If not he gets another under the table job, I will be quick to inform them why he lost his last job and that they can either comply with child support or I will go after them just like I did his other employer. I will have proof of him working there before I let them know this and send it or show it to them at the time.

If trying to find another under the table job is the route he goes and that don’t work for him then he will either just not work or again go get a job that is on the books. If he stops working fine I am not getting anything from him anyway so no different for me. But he then won’t have money to be going out to dinner, party, rent or things that he needs. Let him see what it is like to not have, let her see what it is like to lose things again and homeless or whatever happens. If he don’t do right let him do without like my kids have.

Once I figure it all out and see that I can do this and that he can get in trouble and things for doing this, I am going to make it known that it can be done. I am going to make it known everywhere I can to everyone who will listen. Because there are so many out there not getting the help with their kids that they should be and like me working two or three jobs and just getting by while so many more of these deadbeats walk around without a care.

If this works and you can do it, I am going to post it everywhere, facebook, craigslist, next door, let go and any and everywhere I can think of and let everyone know there are other ways to get things done even when child support enforcement won’t or can’t help. Check this out, lets all work together, help each other get pictures and proof of these guys working. Lets do one better than that, lets make a list of all the places these deadbeats work and make it known that they help these guys get out of paying child support and boycott them. Put it out there for everyone to know. \

Maybe this will make these places either 1 stop lying to the court and start taking the money out of their checks. 2. they will stop giving these guys jobs because they don’t want to be involved in it. So then these guys are going to either have to start paying regardless of how they work. Again have to get jobs that are not under the table or like I said not work and lose everything or figure out how to get by.

If everyone pushes this and stands up and says no more lets hold the employers accountable too maybe a lot more people will start getting at least something.

I can go even one further and point out that even if your children are grown you are still owed any and all child support you should of gotten. It is not to late to collect. Shake them up too. I am so done with these guys walking away and paying I am going to shake every tree I find to shake and stir every pot that comes along. Because if we don’t this is why this kind of things goes on and keeps going on. Someone has to stand up and say enough is enough and change things.

I figure I may as well do anything and everything I can do since child support isn’t doing anything or taking their time and doing no more than they have to. They sent him a letter on the 17th of this month saying he has 20 days to make a payment or they are going to suspend his license. What a joke, it already is from last time. Even though they gave it back he never went and got it.

Oh and the passport they were going to put a stop on, it never got done. I seen in the file this afternoon that there was some kind of mistake and it didn’t get done. Not that it matters or he was going to ever get one, but they can’t even get that right.

I am going to go for now but stay tuned once I am done researching and get the ball rolling I will keep you all updated on how things are going. Until then I will leave you with this one question to ponder…………………

And from my understanding they can not count both of my jobs when figuring out how much child support I should be getting. Because when I was looking up the laws and information about the employer I found some other information. It says when they are deciding how much child support one should pay they should not have to work two jobs to pay it. I don’t remember how it was worded but basically it said if one was working two jobs at the time, support should not be so much that they have to keep working two jobs to have to pay it. It should be figured on one. From what I see it is the one that is 40 hours or close to 40 and they can up it to 40 even if you are not making 40 in a week. But my understanding whatever one you are making the most money at is the one they use. So there for when they skipped putting my day job on my case with father of the year it was because they only use one and my night job I make the most at. There for when they told me to put both on my paperwork for the case between me and RC they were wrong there. I am going to make a day to go to the court house and talk to the lady there about it all as well because child support isn’t handling my case correctly as far as I am concerned.



{December 2, 2016}   My Meeting with My Lawyer

Well guys I sat down to start an update and could have sworn I posted something since what was showing up. I started writing feeling a bit confused and decided to stop and poke around. Sure enough I did write something and I guess I was falling a sleep and saved instead of posted it. So here is Tuesdays Post a little late.

I really did not feel like being at therapy or talking about anything at all really. Most the time was spend trying to figure out how or where to make some money and where to maybe get a job. I was fine with that I just felt in a funk and not like talking at all.

 

Today after therapy was my meeting with my lawyer about the accident I had last year. It was a phone conference I thought I could do from home but I couldn’t I had to go a few cities over to meet my lawyer who was coming from counties away to be with him while we had it. I got out of therapy a little early so I got down that way early. I found where I needed to be and was going to go grab a burger and tea through the drive through for $3, because I was thirsty and hungry. Something said to just go to the meeting so I could talk to the lawyer and explain some things to him. It’s a good thing I did because they gave me floor and room and when I got there they told me someone else was in that room they didn’t know who I was talking about. I called the lawyers office and they said they had that floor and different floor. She said to go down to the next floor and check there. I got down there and all was there was Federal Fraud this and that. She told me she was going to call the lawyer and call me back so she could see where he was. She said to go back to the 4th floor and ask for a different room. I got up there and the lawyer was out in the front waiting for me then. I guess the office had changed some things and his office had written some thing wrong when they were telling them.

When we got in there I asked him how it went from around $40,000 to $80,000 some thing? He said that At&T finally turned their numbers in for their damage and it was $42,000. I said how there wasn’t that much damage to their box at all. He said really? I said really the car came to rest against it but It didn’t really damage to it. He said man I hit said he didn’t think it was that much damage either. Surprising enough the At&T guy was the first on the phone. The lawyer started asking him about it and told him that we both were saying we didn’t see how there was that much damage to that box so we were questioning what had been done. He told us that they opened up an “engineering” ticket for the work order and that every time we seen an hour this day or hour that day they were out looking to see what they should be doing and what parts to order and things like that. Of course we don’t know how many times they were out there because we aren’t watching the pole all the time and things. The AT&T guy said to give you and idea it is $13,000 just for the box and then all the little circuit boards that go into it cost so much and the labor for the workers. The lawyer just said okay and if that is what they said kind of and we waited for everyone else to get on the line.

Once everyone was on the line they went over my financial paperwork. My lawyer told them I am a student I get so much SSI for my son and I have student loans for the rest. They asked about Father of the Year and him supporting the kids or what. I said we have not been together for about 6 years and he has paid maybe a year of child support in that time. I got about two months of support this year and that is it.

The lawyer started going over who was asking for how much and he got to AT&T and said they were asking for $42,000. The man I hit spoke up and said how are they asking for that much there is no way that there was that much damage ? He said Bright House was here before the car was even off their box and three guys spent a few hours or so out here to fix it, there was no internet service or cable why they were fixing it there was an outage. He then said I am a customer of AT&T and we never lost phone service, the box is right outside my door and no one has ever been here not once to look at that box. He said it is still leaning and has a dent in it.

The AT&T guy started about how the box had to be replaced, the box was tore off the slab and laying in the road, it messed up all the wiring and all this inside and all the boards. The guy I hit said what are you talking about the box was not in the road or tore off the slab. There was nothing in the road the cars and things were on the side of the road and in my parking lot, it happen right outside my company. He told them again he was looking at it and it was still there never replaced. He told them he had a time and date stamped picture of it then and he could take one of it now and show it. He asked them and my lawyer asked them what the address of this box they fixed was because they had not even put it on their paperwork when they turned it in. He started saying all these street names and the cross road of this and that. He stopped them and said wait there is not cross road we were right on the side of the high way. The roads they were talking about are across 6 lanes of traffic and a medium and blocks away. The AT$T guy was saying the wall is there and this and that and the stuff in the street. I was looking at my lawyer and shaking me head no this wasn’t right there was no wall and things. Then they gave us the address and things. So then the AT&T guy tried to say it looks like there were two accidents around the same time on the same day then and said something about November 2nd. Me and the man I hit both were like no this accident happen in September there is nothing close to being related here.

Then the AT&T guy just stammered and didn’t really know what to say. He was just like I don’t know how this paperwork got her name tied to it, I just got this case not long ago whatever whatever. But you know what whenever you got it you should have researched it and knew what was going on and that your going after the right person for the accident. Because this wasn’t a lawyer for AT&T or anything like that this was just one of their employee’s that is put in charge of investigating damage and handling this kind of things.

My lawyer I think it was said he guess they needed to wait on AT&T to get their information together and meet again with all this. That we really couldn’t do anything until we knew how much each part wanted. The guy from AT&T said we are out, I’m done. All the others went on talking and things like that and it came up again and it was said they had to wait for all the numbers to be turned in and the AT&T guy again said not being rude but I’m out I am done with this. My lawyer said so your pulling out of the suit then? He said yes I have no information on this the man is saying the box has never had anything done to it someone here has messed up. He said if something needs to be done I will sign the work order and we will eat the cost because I don’t know anything about this case we have no information.

I was like oh thank God this man I hit has his company right there by this box and he was able to say no this is not right and the same box is still there and it was pushed farther and we found out they were wrong. Because I had no pictures and I could not say if the box was or was not replaced or if work had or had not been done to it. I probably would have just been on the hook for it when it was all said and done. I was questioning why they started work in November myself but was waiting for them to all get done talking and when the man I hit started my lawyer was just like SHH just let him talk and let them figure this out between them. Then we will jump in but right now he is getting a lot of information and putting a lot out there. Let him get it all he has to say out there.

They are still saying I am on the hook for like $50,00o something I am not sure about all that, I am going to call and have the office send me a copy of everyone who wants money and how much. He could only do so much and get so much info today because he was working remote didn’t have printer and fax. The lawyer that is. He was super nice not what I expected at all. Some are just kind of stuck up look down on you or what. But he wasn’t that way he was joking around and things and wishing me luck on school and said he really wanted to make this go away. He even told the other insurance company’s lawyer with the insurance company and everyone else on the phone I know your client is not the easiest to work with and don’t do a lot that makes since but.

But he told me when we were talking before it all started that he seen the other company sue a kid for $500. He said the filing fee’s are about that and then they used a lawyer and the fee they had to pay the lawyer was $1500 so they spent more than they eve got but that is how they do. Even my company said they sue everyone. So hearing that I figure they are going to want to go to court and have a judgment put against me for the money they want. Like he said and the other guys said you can’t get blood from a turnip you know. But the other company kept talking about what would be available to me in the future. So they are going to be asses to deal with I am sure.

They dropped Father of the Year before we ever got together because of an accident. But the accident wasn’t even his fault the other people caused it and they hit him. They both had same company and dropped both of them. They are known for some shady things.



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