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{June 12, 2018}   Trying Not To Get To Excited

Because nothing is set in stone, but my mom said something today about going to stay with her friend awhile and that her lawyer has her a court date again. I am hoping she will be out by the weekend. I am telling her she needs to go there and stay take her stuff with her. I am going to have her mail forwarded to her as well. Because I want her gone.

Oldest said she said something about moving over there. I don’t know wanting pictures of the place and said something about maybe having me take her by there or having her pick her up to see the place.

She started on me about the money I owe her. When I was going to get it. She owes me $200 more and for months she not paid now. I still need to get it filed asap. I need to get everyone paid off once and for all. I just don’t know I just get tired of dealing with her. I shut down do nothing. I just got to get her out of here.

I have not said anything to her about going over there. She just told me today. I don’t want to seem excited or she won’t go. I have to figure out get her that money. Just to get rid of her. I cant stand having her here.

She is mad she wants to buy a fridge, washer, drier and table for the kitchen. I told her no table no washer or drier. Because the only reason she wants to is because she wants to dictate when and how they are used. She don’t want dog blankets or whatever else washed or dried in them. Right now if it needs washed and fits it gets put in the washer and drier. If she buys them even though she says she is buying them for me or us the kids and us they will not be ours until she leaves. Until then it will be they are hers she paid for them so don’t wash this and that in them. She said before she buy a nice set if we didn’t. I told her no i have a washer drier at home so I do not have to go somewhere else and wash stuff. That I have enough to do without adding that to the list. She got pissed off. Guess she thought asking later I would forget and just say yes.

The table is the samething, i need chairs for mine we have two the others broke. She wants to toss the table and buy a different one. I do not want a table had gotten rid of mine she just had to have a table. I got this one i liked the guy behind me gave me when he moved. She dont want this that and the other sat on it. She gets mad. Well its a table thTs what it is for. She don’t like that it is glass top. The last 3 or 4 I have had are. I love them glass top with kids. So easy to clean and we can do anything on it wips it right off. Paint, draw, glue, playdogh, cook, anything it just comes right up. Don’t worry about stains and things like wood or other things. If she bought one it be wood it be don’t sit this or that on it don’t play at it don’t do arts or crafts on it blah blah. So I told her no i would get one or chairs to go with mine when I got money. It is not a big deal we can make due with what we have. But to hear her tell i am abusing my kids. Because we do not have a nice new washer and drier and we do not have a nice new table. None of we can afford right now. But that don’t matter i should just go get one anyway. Nope not going to happen. Then be shourt on other bills. No life dont work that way. But in her world it does. She should not pay me but buy me all this stuff. If we really need it and i can do without the money and can use it to get all this and it is for me and the kids, then why is she not saying here go find what yall like want? Instead its i found this table and this washer drier set. Why is she picking it out? Because its going to be hers until she moves. Then she going to tell everyone how we had nothing she had to rush in spend all her money to buy this stuff for me because i cant even take care of my kids. My washer things work. Just got them from a friend not long ago a year maybe. My table we only use for counter space or what. So we dont need chairs. When she leaves we are probably going to toss it make an office there.

I just want her gone for good once and for all. She yelled at me the other day had huge fit me and oldest left and left the boys here. She not slept all night and then couldn’t sleep all day because they were here and about having to babysit not to leave them like that again. Got mad I laughed at her. Like i told her I never asked her to babysit or assumed she was. I left them on their own to take care of theirselves. The same as I would of done and have done when she is not there. She could of left went to sleep taken a shower or anything. She didn’t because she didn’t want to. I take a nap with them here no one else here. I let the boys stay home alone why we go out. There is no set age to stay home alone here so if I wanted to I could leave my 7 year old alone. But i do not i leave him and the 12 year old together. They know not to answer the door or cook or leave the house and can call me. They know what houses to go to if they need help. She just crazy as hell and has issues.



{April 9, 2017}   Clean Break

The kids last day of school was yesterday and they are out for Spring Break. I told them it is going to be Cleaning Break for them because I am tired of the way the house is and always having to fight with them to clean it. It’s mostly just clutter and I am over it we need to do away with a lot and make the house more functional for us at this stage. We have been here going on 4 years we have changed things around once since then. That was to take the play room out make room for desk and bookcases. The kids all have gotten bigger their needs have changed and we need more room. Not so much more room as we need to make the space we have functional not just cluttered space or a dumping ground for things we don’t know what to do with or where to put it.

I have the 4th bedroom or the back room as we call it that we are going to move around and change up. It is the size of of one and half bedrooms and it has a closet. Right now it has 6 tall bookcases and two short ones, three school desk a regular desk, toddler bed, couch, love seat, queen size mattress/box spring and other junk that has collected back there. I forgot about the three desk until I was writing this just now. One has the printer it will have to stay the other two I am not sure what is even in or on them. The big desk I hope my Big Boy will agree to get rid of because we don’t really need it. But someone gave it to him and he is funny about it. Oh and there is a rocking chair back there forgot it too. The other two school desk I am not sure if I will have room for them or not or if I will use them I will have to wait and see how things go once I move everything around.

Right now I know that I am selling the dinning room table, taking the fish tank and stand out of there as well. I am putting the frogs back in the five gallon tank and taking the big one down. That stand will go in the trash or given away that it is sitting on. It is an old night stand I redone and spray painted to sit it on. The five will sit on my end table nicely in the living room and the frogs will get more interaction. They love when you are at the tank watching them and swim around and things.

I have a dinning room table that use to be bar high with two stools it is a few feet long and couple wide. I cut the legs down shorter so the kids could put their chairs up to it and use it. I think I am going to put it in the dinning area and put the computer on it. Then take a few of the bookcases out of the back and put in there to free up some room in the back room. Make and office area in that area. Maybe put the little desk with the printer in there or one of those little desk out there for the little kids to draw and play out. I have the rug I put in my room it is to big most of it will be under my bed so kind of a waste I am going to put that in there as well. Kind of tie everything together make it look nice.

Then in the back room I am thinking move all the book shelves over to one side of the room and then use the other half for either a family closet like area or a play room. I love the idea of putting all the dressers and clothes out of the bedrooms out there. I think it would make it easier when folding and putting everything away and easier when looking for clothes for everyone. It would also keep the kids from taking things out not wearing them and them getting tossed around their rooms and back into the dirty clothes when they were never wore.

But I also like the idea of having all the toys back there and not having them all over the bedrooms. If it isn’t spotless all the time it is in the back where no one goes but them and it isnt’ all over the floors where they are sleeping and everyone is walking around. I tell them all the time if there was a fire how would they get out there is so much stuff all over their floors. I am also getting rid of a bunch of toys and packing others away for a while so there will not be near as many as there are now so it shouldn’t be as big of a deal. The kids want the play area in the back instead of putting the dressers in there. They said they would rather have a play room than more room in their rooms without the dressers and things in there. I am thinking maybe we will try it this way for a little bit and see how it goes. If it isn’t working then I will move the toys back to their rooms and put clothes back there.

But for now first things are first they are going through all their toys deciding what to get rid of and what to keep. I have to get all the crap back there that I don’t need sold and the table sold so that I can move everything around. I just hope it all sells and sells quick because I want it all gone. I think it will be odd at first with not having a table in the dinning room but I think it will be a lot nicer. We do not use the table at all hardly. It sits a cluttered mess that you can’t even sit down at 99.99% of the time. I we eat in the living room, the little kids have a table and we sit on the couch. Me and the older kids were talking about it and when we were with RC we didn’t have a table big enough for all of us and most the time we went outside and sat at the tables out there and had dinner. The kids loved it they would eat and then run around and play we would sit and talk or whatever. We all ate at the table together more then than we do now with it right in the house with us. We liked sitting outside and eating like that more than at the table in the house. Even now if one of my friends stops over or comes over the kids sit in the living room and eat and me and them go outside and sit and eat and talk. I like being outside in the evenings.

Even when the table inside is cleaned off the kids always want to sit in the living room and watch something why we eat. We don’t end up watching whatever it is with them all talking but everyone is comfortable and they do talk and things. When they are the table they rush to get done and get down.

If everything goes good I hope that we can have everything gone through by the end of the day today now that it is Sunday. Then I hope that it all sells by Tuesday or Wednesday because it is so packed in there right now I can’t do anything until some of the stuff is gone out of there. Right now I have to do homework, I have said for hours now I was going to do it but haven’t yet. I need to get all of it done for the week and then really start going through everything. I started in december then everything happen with sending my couch and things back and using the old one and everything. I have just been to busy since to mess with it all. I think I will go now and start listing stuff and hope to have people coming to look at it tomorrow.



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