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{September 27, 2018}   Re: My Friend Hates Me

Yesterday I told you all about Little Bitty telling me Her friend hates her well today I walked her to class as always. But today I had a little talk with the teacher. I had Little Bitty tell her who it was and what he was saying.

The teacher was horrified. She said she had noticed the change in her and was trying to figure out why. She said they do not sit by each other so she needed to figure out when it was happening. She said she would be looking into it and put a stop to it.

The way things are set up you can’t go to the class rooms at the end of the day without checking in at the office. So I wated on her to come out and asked her how things went today.

Little Bitty said the teacher took her and the little boy to the office. She wanted her to tell them all that was said and what happen. She said they told her that if him or anyone did this again to stop and go right to the teacher or someone and tell them. They told the little boy he could not say these things to other people and do what he did. She don’t know if he got in any trouble or just talked to. Its all new for her and she is so little. She said he didn’t say anything and left her alone today. She was okay with how it was all handled. I am going to talk to the teacher tomorrow and see what she found our and how it was handled. She did make the comment that she could not change her learning center because those were the kids that were on the same level. This is when this is taking place come to find out. I got news for this teacher, if this kid starts back in on my kid someone is being moved and she will have to figure out how to do things from there.

I am glad they are doing something and not brushing it under the rug. I was shocked when she said he was taken to the office. I figured the teacher would handle it in class and if it happen anymore then maybe office. But I am glad they feel it was important enough to handle this way. May this will show the kid how not okay this is and that he could get in lots of trouble.



{September 11, 2018}   45 Minute Nap

It is 8:30 kids are at school and I am home. I am going to take a 45 minute nap, then jump up get ready and go to my meeting. That will give me 45 minutes until we will be sitting down starting not just to get there. I hope to have time to stop for coffee but I don’t know. Time will tell.



{February 8, 2017}   Two Years Already

Today is two years since my dad has passed, two years it’s hard to wrap my mind around it and figure out where the time has gone. It feels like yesterday. I have been thinking about it for a week or so now as it got closer and closer to today it just keeps sitting there in the back of my mind two years two years over and over like a echo. I wasn’t sure how today was going to go at all it could have been really bad or could have been great I honestly didn’t know how I was going to feel today or if I was going to do anything. To top it off I had to go to class today. I was worried what if I was to bothered by it to go I would miss another day. I even thought about it in bed last night as I laid down to go to sleep.

This morning I woke up at 5 with the dogs wanting to go out, got the kids up they took them out and we laid back down. I could’t sleep so I looked around on my phone. It was the first thing that came to mind when I woke up part of why I couldn’t fall a sleep I think. I finally went back to sleep until the alarm went off and got everyone up. I got up got Little Bitty ready and fought with her to get her to get dressed and even go to school. Doctor said she was fine yesterday so she was going today. We got there I asked the kids to walk them in my side was hurting from my gallbladder again. Then I took the older kids and dropped them off, I walked Big Boys stuff up and put it in class for him I didn’t want him to drop it all and break it he had my bowl and other glass stuff in it. He has a habit of falling down. Not what I wanted to deal with this morning. I talk to the teacher and one of the students for a bit and left. I came home and was going to make something to eat but I didn’t. I put coffee on and came to check in with everyone here instead.

I started one post about something and it turned into a post about other stuff half way through and I had to leave to get to class so I just saved it. I have to go back split it up clean them up and then post them but I haven’t had time today or felt like it with everything going on and being sick.

I got to class and sat down and we started the teacher asked everyone how we were feeling or how our day was going and done some counseling examples with it and we went on with class. All this time since I got up to get the kids up until that point I had not even thought about what today was. All of a sudden it just hit me right in the middle of class. I just felt like someone dropped something on me I can’t explain it. I started to tear up I looked at the clock to see what time it was we still had half the class left. I had my hoodie sitting there I wiped my eyes with it a few times and just kept looking at my paper. I don’t know why I just started writing. I wrote about half a page or so, I had no clue what was going on in the rest of the class. I didn’t know what they were talking about what was said nothing. I still don’t and am not sure if we had something to do for homework or turn in Monday or when our test it or what it is on.

It was like I just blocked everyone out. All of a sudden I released the teacher was talking to me. Just like you see on tv where the kids is off in space and the teacher ask him a question and they have no clue what they said or what is going on. I couldn’t even fake it until I made it try to. I just kind of looked for the teacher and looked at him and he ask the question again. I had no clue where he had even walked to in the class by that point. He was asking about how the content of the class was going and the way he was explaining it to us and things like that and how it was compared to taking it online? It’s not great, it isn’t horrible either but it could be a lot better. I didn’t have any problems with it on line and understood it pretty well. But I feel a lot of it is pretty common since stuff if you read the definition to the words and look at the examples or case studies. I just told him it was good and that I liked it online and understood it but I also understood it here and it worked for me. After that he started talking and I wrote a few more things as he let everyone go and they all piled out. I was getting my things together and he stopped me and was talking to me. We walked down stairs together and talked some. I think that helped because before I started writing I was about to get up and walk out of class. I was debating on just walking out going to the bathroom across the hall or taking all my stuff walking out and going home. I don’t know what made me just start writing, but I did.

I left school and it was about 1230 by then since I had stayed behind and talked with the teacher, I just drove right to the older kids school to pick them up. I knew they would be getting out in 30 minutes. As I went by I seen they were outside playing so I parked and walked around there. I hung out there and talk to them and then we went back to class. They have a new kid coming who needs a ride and I was trying to figure out if it was the one I knew of and if they lived close. I am pretty sure it is I told them I would give her a ride in the mornings if she was ready when I got there. I am waiting to hear when that will start but she lives a mile or less away from me and if I go to her house I just follow the road around to the little kids school then go out to the main road and go to their school.

I was going to share what I wrote in class here tonight but I forgot it in the truck. It is late I am not dressed I am not going out there tonight. I will finish it up and share it another time. I will share my other post I was wrote this morning later as well. Probably one day this week or this weekend. I am sick and don’t feel good. And when I came back here this afternoon to read I seen another blog that touched on what I wrote early and it got me thinking a little more so I want to maul it over for a bit before I write it. Hopefully some good post to come in the next few days. My goal is to post at least once a day I would like to post more but at least once. But I may not be around much tomorrow, between being sick and trying to find a cage, we are supposed to bring our furry new pets home tomorrow and I still don’t have one so I am going to have to go out tomorrow why they are in school and look. If I don’t make it back you know why.



{February 6, 2017}   Excellence in Academics

My oldest had her award ceremony thing tonight, she got an award for Excellence in Academics. They called the representative from each school up and they talked about each student and then the guy from the scholarship gave them their metal. Most schools had two kids hers just had one this year. Before they did the kids they had each one come up with the teacher and the family they picked for the award they were giving out for that. The teacher at their school got one she got a key chain, they didn’t have a family I was surprised they didn’t have the one girls grandma that we are all friends with she is always helping out and doing things for the school. Not sure if they knew they were doing it or having it or maybe she didn’t want to look like she was picking one of us over the others but I wouldn’t have felt that way at all. There is her or the parent that teaches life skills. I think either one should have gotten it over me or the other few parents that do show up. Some schools did two parents they both could have gotten it.

They said there were 1700 schools that take the scholarship in the state with almost 100,000 kids who get it, they said that the kids that were there tonight were picked out of the 650 kids who were nominated for the awards. It was interesting the way they do it I thought it would have been put together and done a little better than what it was but it was still fun and nice.



{January 9, 2017}   The Class in The Closet

I printed my temporary parking permit on a sheet of notebook paper and headed to the security office to get my sticker for my truck. All the stressing and worrying over getting it printed out like it said we needed to do and the lady stressed to make sure I did was for nothing. The officer hardly even looked at it, she looked at it so close that she didn’t even know that it was a temp permit. She started asking me if I had one before. I told her I had never had one and then she seen that what I handed her was the temp one and that is what it was counting.

I went straight and put it on the back window on the drivers side like I was instructed to do and decided if I was going to stay parked where I was or fight the traffic to get a parking space closer to the building I needed to be in. I promptly decided to stay put when I seen how crazy everyone was trying to find a place and how tight the parking was and fast it was filling up. I put my book, clipboard and pin in my purse and headed to class.

It said room 207, I walked in and seen a sign that said elevators so I followed it to not find any elevators in sight. I think I walked a circle around the square halls and seen a kid looking at this door like he was scared to open it. I thought where it was it must be stairs but really wasn’t sure because of the way the place is set up and laid out. I said are those the stairs and he looked at me horrified and said I think so and ask these two ladies that look to be teachers and then apologized. They told him yes it was the stairs not to be sorry. He opened the door and we all went in. I couldn’t get to the door because they were all around it I didn’t want to be rude and step between or around them or I would have just open to see. I again walked a circle around the square hall looking for my class. I started down a hall and it seemed that the numbers were going up so I wen the other way and they were still going up. I was at like 220 and then went the other way and was finding 214, 218 and things. No rhyme or order to them at all. I was back at room 220 where I started to go down to start with and went the other way. I made the circle. I was thinking this wasn’t right I just walked all around and everything was in the 210 or more. Then I seen over in a corner 204 but still no 207. I started to go around the corner to the stairs as I did I finally seen room 207. I went in and there were already 6 other people sitting around the room and the teacher was already talking. I had to look at the clock to see if I was late but I was little over 5 minutes early. I sat down and still was’t sure I was in the right class, no one had books out, and they were all just talking about things to expect in the class and things. I pulled my stuff out and looked for my pen that I guess I lost between the truck and trying to find the class. I ask the girl at the table in front of me and she didn’t have an extra one so I ask her to get the lady in front of her she let me use one.

The teacher said about time for the class to start that we had two more people that should be coming in that they were probably looking for the class as the others had a hard time finding it as well. One came in about that time and then the other showed up a little late. Some guy come in and he said he was just looking in that he was teaching a class in there next. Our teacher said to the late people and the guy oh you found the closet and refers to the classroom as the closet. It is on the outside of the rest of the classes on the outer wall of the building in a corner with no windows or anything. The tables are up against bookshelves that are around the walls because it isn’t a very big room at all. So we are the class in the closet. It was kind of cold in there and if felt like it got colder. It is maybe 50 something out and they had the air on. I walked out of the house and forgot my jacket and coffee so I was cold but not super cold.

We went over everyone’s names, the outline for the class, what was expected and things like that. We talked about what we all wanted to do and why we wanted to take this class and went home. We got out about 10 to 15 minutes early. Walking back to my truck I started thinking I may as well just walk to and from school. By the time I got to my truck I only have 5 tenths of a mile or less to walk and I am home. It is probably another tenth to two tenths of a mile from the building I am in to where I parked. I do not see me parking any closer than I did today because like I said parking and space is horrible. I thought I was going to get ran over just trying to walk through there to get to class.

He said that we don’t really have homework, just things he will have us write down to go over and talk about in class. We will have 4 quizzes, two exams, two written papers, a project and a video taped interview at the end. I was like shit I am not going to get away from doing this video even by taking the class in class. But at least it isn’t 6 or 8 like the last one and we are all in this class together so maybe I can find someone in there to work on it with.

There seems to be a good mix to the class even though there are only 9 of us in there. There is one that is dual enrolled with his high school, one that said this is his last semester or class and he will be finished with his two year degree, there were two older ladies well not older probably in their 40’s the rest were young like the other two. I didn’t feel as out of places as I thought I would. I’m not the oldest there and not the youngest I think I am probably the middle of the group. There is one other girl there that I think may be in in her early to mid 30’s. If not then I am probably the only one in my 30’s. But that is ok.

I am glad to see that this is going to be a easy class, I didn’t expect it to be to hard because I have taken it before and just didn’t pass because of the video’s. But I expect a lot more work than what he is saying there will be. I just have to see what is up with the rest of my classes now because today is the fist day of them and I have only done the work for one so far. I have two left to do. But I think it is all due Saturday and Monday or Sunday and Monday. But I still have to log on and check in today since it is the fist day of classes. I don’t need to get dropped before I even get to start.

But I thought I would check in and let you know how my first day of my first on campus in class, class went. It is 1 and I have to leave to pick the kids up in an hour and half I am thinking about taking a nap. But I really should do the rest of my classes, put the clothes in the drier and start another load washing so I can get rid of this mound that is out on my carport for everyone to see when they drive by. I can’t help it I had to get it out of my house and if I put it in the laundry room I won’t have room to get around in there. I am just glad that it I am not all worked up over it all today like I was last night. I really felt like it alone was overwhelming me and going to cause me to stress about everything else but it did’t.



{November 8, 2016}   Not Voting

For those that have been following my blog know what has been going on with my Little Guy at school with his teacher. For those just joining or who missed it you can read about it here Third Party or here Baby Killer. As I said before this is not about who you vote/voted for or how you feel about either one. I could careless as I it is everyone’s right to vote and vote for who they want to vote for or not to vote and to feel however they would like about everyone involved. It is none of my business or anyone else here or anywhere else. Just as this teacher should not be pushing this on these kids who are not even old enough to truly understand it all and give a biased view on it all to top it off.

This is is what he told me when he got in the truck today. He was proud of himself too and I am glade he was and stood up for himself and did not let the teacher push him into something just because he was a “child” He has his opinions and thoughts and he stood by them. I hope he continues to be as outspoken and stand up for himself as he gets older. It took me a long time to stand up for myself, what I wanted or believed and how I felt about things. Life would have been much easier if I had started out young and stayed with it. I was the peace keeper and go with the flow until a lot later in life.

I am really over this teacher trying to pushing this “voting” thing with my kid. He said they voted today and he did not vote, she told him he HAD to vote for one or the other. He told her he didn’t want to vote for either one and she kept pushing him that he had to. Ofcourse he wasn’t going to vote for Hillary when she told him she was a baby killer and he told her he didn’t like Trump he picked on people. She told him she didn’t believe him. He told her he wasn’t voting for either one. He stood his ground and didn’t. These are kindergarten kids, its great you want to teach about the election but to only push one person and bash the other and not tell them all their options is not right. This is not teaching them anything or preparing them for when they are old enough to vote. If you are truly preparing them to vote and what the election is all about you do not only tell them about all the bad from one party nothing good, nothing good or bad about the other party or that there are two other people to vote for. You do not tell them they have to vote they can’t not vote. It is their right to not vote just as it is everyone else right to vote. He has heard what you had to say and seen what he did on tv and decided on his own who to vote for not prompting from anyone. If they do not like that then to bad. It isn’t like it really counts and they are little kids they should not have to be worried about voting and what each party stands for anyway. He has plenty of time to worry about all that in 12 years when he is old enough to vote and really understand and can research and decide for himself.



{October 28, 2016}   Baby Killer

Disclaimer: This is nothing to do with who you are or are not voting for, why you are voting for them or anything like that. It is not about if you are for or against abortion even. I really do not care what your views are on either of the subjects.

This is about a teacher of a class of 5 and 6 year old’s talking to kids about things that she has no business bring up to kids in a class at school and not to kids this age at all.

 

I pick my 6 year old up at school and as I am helping him buckle in the truck he says to me…. My teacher said that voting Third Party is the same as voting for the lady who say says (and he whispers at this point) it’s ok for mommies to kill their babies and she is evil.

I ask him what all did she tell him about trump and what he says or does. He said nothing just that he is the one to vote for.

Now if you are going to talk about the election that is fine, if you are going to talk about how one picks what party to vote for or not to vote for that is great. But if this is the case then why not tell them about both and bring up that their is a third party?

Then tonight he comes in and tells me, mommy I am just going to vote for Trump since he is the good guy. I said honey you can’t vote your to little. He said we are going to have a vote in class. Now I want to know what is this voting is for? Why has she only told them about one party and what they are for and not both? What happens of the kids do not vote for Trump since this is the only person she is pushing? Why hasn’t she told them any of the things Trump is for that some may not like as she did with Hillary? If you want to tell them what each is for or against you can leave some things out or change them it isn’t real election and the kids are not going to know the difference but still get the point this is how we pick who we want to vote for and things.

Killing babies should not be brought up to kids this small. Anyone who has kids knows how kids can get fixed on something and how this could to turn bad. Add to that, my son already has anxiety over death and don’r fully understand it.



I get all the kids up and take them to school today, since my Little Guy was fine by Wednesday evening and had no complaints, fever or puking Thursday. My little ones have to be there at 8:20 and 8:30 while the big ones don’t have to be there until 9. I get my Little guy there by 8:20 and then hang out until my Little Bitty’s teacher gets there at 8:30. I could put her in before care but she always wants me to wait with her until her teacher comes. She says she don’t like it in there in the mornings. Today she said it was to much in the mornings. So dramatic at 3. But there is a lot going on kids going in and out parents going in and out and I am not thrilled the way the daycare is ran. My friend is the head teacher over after care and she just came back after being a way for a while. She even said it is way different and she wasn’t crazy about it either. I am hoping she changes somethings since she is the head teacher. I like that she is there in the after noon when they go she keeps an eye on them better. But she isn’t there in the mornings. I don’t mind staying with her in the mornings it lets us have a few minutes together. If I wasn’t standing there with her I would just be sitting outside the older kids school waiting for them to be able to get dropped off. I still have some time with them waiting after I drop her off and get them there so they get a little time as well. I don’t think her teacher likes it that I stand out there and wait for her to get there since she don’t come in until the last minute and then has to go get her class from before care and bring them around. She always seems a little bothered that I am standing there waiting on her. I’m really not rushing her I wouldn’t be there that early if it wasn’t for having to have my other one dropped off by 8:20. I a few of the staff have told me I could drop her off in before care. I just told them she likes me to wait with her. I told her teacher this morning when we went in that I try to get her to go play with the other kids but she says it’s to much over there and she rather me wait with her by the door.

Anyway I took the other two to school after I got her settled in class this morning and came home. I laid back down for a little bit it was only 9 when I got here. I figured I would lay down an hour and get up. About 10:15 my phone rang and I didn’t answer it. I thought it was someone else. I fell back to sleep and woke up about 20 minutes later. Something said check the message so I did and it was the school. They said they had Little Guy in the office he said his throat hurt and that he had two white places in his mouth if I could come and get him. I sat down to print something out I needed to take with me since we were going to go to the doctors when I picked him up and the computer was taking forever. The school called again, I answered told them I didn’t have my phone but just got their message and was on my way out the door to get him. I got up there they had him in the office. I took him straight to the doctor to get a note because I knew at this point they weren’t going to let him back in school without one. She checked him out said nothing wrong in the mouth throat looked red but no thrush like the school though. She checked his ears and said he had a double ear infection and they were going to do the strep test. So he was home the rest of the day. He was so funny he kept asking me whats this and whats that how to say your abc’s and different things. He was board I could tell. Hopefully we will make through the weekend and next week with no sick kids. We better anyway. I do not want anymore puking kids that is for sure.  I also had her give me a note for all the days he missed this week and for today and the school said all those would be excused since he was able to get a doctors note. I told her he was sick Wednesday with the puking kept him home make sure it was all gone yesterday and then he got sent home today. She said not a problem. She is really a great doctor. Most the time I say I think they have this or that or they have been doing this and this so we figure it’s this and she will look at them and go yep your right do this or that for it. If I ask for any kind of testing she will do it and add others she things would be good to go along with them or other things we should look at while we are doing them as well. She don’t like to give tons of medications for no reason or just because to make mom and dad happy.

Just like when I called last Friday evening about Little Bitty, I said she is saying her head hurts really bad, she has a fever of 101.7. She stopped said fever I’m not worried about. I said well I’m not worried about the fever and that isn’t why I called. I told her how she would be fine one minute then almost passing out the next and crying in pain. Not able to do anything. She that I am worried about take her to the hospital and get her checked. I said ok I said I wasn’t worried about fever but was worried about that and that is why I called. I said just fever it will go down it isn’t that high, she said yes but the other needs to be checked. So we sent most the night in the er to get checked out.



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